im 14 and i've known this guy for a little over a year now, im white and he's black and when my parents found out we liked each other, we weren't aloud 2 talk. well now we're aloud 2 talk but only because i said we're jus FRIENDS...i hate lying, but i love him and its the only way i can talk to him...my dad doesn't like him because he's black, and my mom likes him, but only when she thinks we're only FRIENDS....i want 2 b with him sooo bad, but i know if my parents find out, i'll never be aloud 2 c him again....my whole family is like this...im the only one who doesnt really see color...but i know for a fact that my mom has liked black guys...but she doesn't know i know that so i cant use that against her...we want 2 b 2gether so bad...and im willing 2 take this chance...i'll deal with the consequences when they come.....im not saying he's the ONE for me, i mean im only 14 & im not thinkin of that now. i just want him 2 b my boyfriend....am i making the right desion???
2006-11-26 09:38:26 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry, but I agree with your mom! By the way, it's called lust not love...
2006-11-26 09:42:08 · answer #1 · answered by prairiegurrl 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That's a tough one. I would talk to my parents. I would be the parent for once and tell them to wake up. They are probably thinking of all the baggage that comes along w/it. Like if you two go somewhere. You would get looks and threats, and they don't want anything to happen to you. How bout asking your parents to meet him and his family. And then once they see he comes from a good home, maybe they'll ease up a lil bit. I hope it works out for you. Take care. And be careful.
2006-11-26 09:48:35 · answer #2 · answered by TRULEY MADLY DEEPLEY 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah your parents need to welcome their self to reality... i dont get racisim. but its not like your going to get married or anything and its not going to hurt anything as long as you know he is a good guy then go for it. you never know what you really want tell u try new things. i am dating a black guy and my mom has no problem with it. other people do but its my life. what are they gonna do when they say u cant see him no more and you dont listen? nothing.
2006-11-26 11:35:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
your parents shouldn't care about who their daughters dated that much, only whether she's happy or not. also being racist never helps any one, ever. you're making the right decision by taking the chance and i hope the best for you.
2006-11-26 09:44:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
for one thing, your parents need to GROW up, this is the 21st century not 1850! if you like him than follow your heart, your parents will just have to accept that!
2006-11-26 09:41:20 · answer #5 · answered by Kelly T 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋