I recently discover my boyfriends porn collection, I found it in the upper draw of his dresser i asked him to throw it away n he said he did 3 months ago but he didnt, and now he is looking at porn online. i was on our computer and all these porn sites where listed in the history toolbar. i just dont get it. i am a pretty girl 5'9 118lbs 36 24 32 there is no reason for him to be looking at porn. got an answear let me know.
2006-11-26 09:30:36 · 16 answers · asked by B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why are women so arrogant as to think if they are dating someone, that she is the only woman he should ever want to see again naked?
C'mon...geez...porn is harmless (unless it becomes an addiction)...guys are more visual than women and they like to look at naked women...why does this trouble you? It doesn't mean he wants to do the chick in the pic...
Do you not EVER admire a nice looking man when you are in a relationship? NEVER??? If you don't, then you are a rare bird...because it's only human to admire others...
...however if we (and you) admire others while we are dating, we should feel bad right? Because our partner should be all we ever think about or look at in an appreciatively admiring way....right? (wrong)
Why does this trouble you so? Why are you jealous? Perhaps you should look at why it bothers you and fix those things within yourself...
HOWEVER the fact that he lied about discarding it is an issue...what else has he lied about? I think you two have bigger issues than porn to deal with.
2006-11-26 09:40:35 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
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2016-07-18 16:23:17 · answer #2 · answered by Ellen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys are intrigued with the fantasy end of porn. They would like nothing more than to have sex 24/7 any place, any time, any position, anything goes. Don't think of it as he's not satisfied with you. Perhaps if you are willing, try some things out from the porn movies. You might find he watches less of it.
2006-11-26 09:34:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some people use porn as a way to combat monogamy monotony.
Does this interfere with your relationship? Is the porn demeaning to women or involving children or animals?
Because he did not do as you asked, you have a right to be annoyed. If it is getting in the way, you need to decide if it is a deal breaker because, if it is, you need to be able to follow thru.
2006-11-26 09:36:27 · answer #4 · answered by anirbas 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I bet you are pretty gal but you cant be with him all the time. And visiting porn can be a reason to learn more about a female body , the more knowledge one can have the more pleasure he can give to you. I am married but still i go online just to discover new ways to spice up our life, to keep my wife happy and our sex life active.
2006-11-26 09:34:25 · answer #5 · answered by hard_2forget 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fact of life: Guys look at porn. Regardless if they have a girl in their life or not. It's not a BAD thing. At least he's not sleeping with another girl.
2006-11-26 09:37:59 · answer #6 · answered by Mintygoodness1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
itsa a guy thing. no matter what we will look at porn.
a reason would be that hes not getting enough of it from you. maybe you two arent having enough sex.
look. its just something you have to live without. if you throw out his porn stash. he will just use his money to buy more. and try to hide it better next time. besides. we are shy about sharing porn with our girls. it makes us look bad.
just be straight with him. tell him how you feel and tell him that you will better accomidate his urges.
2006-11-26 09:36:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being male, I believe the desire to view a woman's body is not detrimental to the relationship. MEN ARE DRIVEN TOWARD VISUAL STIMULATION. Now the problem is we sometimes forget what it does to the significant others ego. My suggestion and what works for me and my spouse, is to have our own "porn" and when the urge hits me, I can always look at it! Get more liberal, and strip for him, that will do the trick as well as keep him occupied!
2006-11-26 09:35:56 · answer #8 · answered by R. W 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Men look at porn when there is something missing in the relationship you need to ask him what is missing and try to fix it . or ask him if he wants to watch porn ask him to watch it with you instead of behind your back. sometimes it will put some spice in your relationship.
2006-11-26 09:35:51 · answer #9 · answered by peaches _ yahoo id _ tdrdnbyahoo.com 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men do a thing called window shopping its like what we do with clothes and men to. Even if we don't say we still do it. The old thing of you can look but not touch. Let him look it does no hard and can even do him and you some good. He will last longer.
2006-11-26 09:34:24 · answer #10 · answered by Jinxy 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋