Should i move to the bay area or to LA? Heres my situation.?

Question

(2 things. 1st I am a guy, 2nd im asking in here because this is the only group that actually answers question besides pets)

I have about a year to graduate school. I am transfering schools to either of the two areas. In the bay there is this great girl that I that I have been thinking about for years and I would love to give us a real chance at a relationship. In LA there is my best friend friend from 6th grade who we have, our entire lives, talked about how we will become rich and successful together. In the bay I could live with my parents in a 2 million dollar mansion rent free. In LA i would live in a tiny apartment but I be having fun and partying and finally working of some of our business ideas. I have to decide within a week or two. What should I do? This decision is consuming my entire existance.

Answer 1

From a 40 yr. old that made the wrong choices at you age.

The right choice is to concetrate on school. (PERIOD)

Dating is a distraction, partying is a distraction, part time or full time jobs are a distraction, Future plans/ideas are a distraction. A couple of years of nose to the grindstone work will result in a lifetime of abundance. Even one year of distraction can lead to a life time of scraping to get by.

Your friend will still be your friend a couple years from now when both of you are graduated. If you and the girl are meant ot be she will still be there. If not you just saved a whole lot of dinner and movie money. If Mom and Dad have nice digs they know how to help you achieve them too and they want to help you be a success. The rrest of the world is not nearly that supportive of you.

Think of it this way, You can rent a Ferrari for a week and eat only ramen noodles or you can buy a moped and and eat steak for a year. What is the best decission?

Move in with Mom and Dad. Listen to them, they actually do know what they are talking about. And Graduate with honors. Then grab the girl and your best friend go into business together and party on your success.

Answer 2

You have more choices than you present: Obviously, you can live in a tiny apartment in both places.

This is not a decision but a collection of opportunities. I will try to list them as I see them.

You can have a more physical proximity with a girl you have known for years. What is your relationship? Friend, girl friend, lover, or fiancee? You know where you are with her and you may know where you want to be, but so far, you have not decided. Why? If you have decided, we would not be talking about you other choices.

Tiny apartment in LA or bay area. Note the word "apart" in apartment. Believing you will have fun, party, and working business ideas is not realistic. You may have a party or two, but your business ideas will consume you if you really expect to succeed. It will take hard work and along the way you may have fun.

Returning home to live with your parents. One really can never return home again, you may live there, but it will never be your home, it is your parents home.

I believe I have options, but you are not a child. You need to figure out what you want and how you are going to get it. You may have more options, more situations to choose from, so look "within" yourself, not "outside". Remember this is a choice, not a life threaten situation. Good luck.

Answer 3

Rent is a b*tch. Go with the bay. The people are nicer there. "partying" + "working" on some "ideas" are usually cues that not much work is going to get done for a whiile. Get a layout plan of what you want to do while you still have a (decently) nice roof over your head. Plus giiirl, well, you never know. You meet lots of people in the bay.

Answer 4

Bay!

The Bay Area is a much better place to be... and your living is sorted out.

THe LA life you describe is going to be a harder route, especially juggling grad school on top of everything else. And longtime friendships and business don't generally pan out as planned, especially if one or both of you will be counting on it as your main livlihoods.

Answer 5

Time to grow up and experience life, but not in L.A. Your life wouldn't be worth a pinch of poop if you don't know where the violence is, and I lived there for 42 years! It is true, that you can't go back home, but try your luck!

Answer 6

wow, i stay contained in the bay section ( san jose) and that i imagine you ought to stay the following. there are extra powerful probabilities of placing out a sturdy career. there is silicon valley the following. plus you get your wealthy mom and father to assist u shop money with the help of residing of their homestead. that ought to help you out plenty in placing out a corporation....and u also receives the lady. i had to make a similar decision when I moved out of my mom and father homestead in florida. i took a custom to l. a. with my proper pal and when I were given there i realised i ought to shop so a lot extra with the help of shifting in with my dad contained in the bay section, and taking low-priced community college training until eventually i move. now I have my own position and a sturdy job the following in san jose, yet im nonetheless in college at nights. there is plenty to guage. i imagine you may in simple terms finally end up slacking in l. a. with your pal. you dont seem to have a important plan there...cuz "transforming into wealthy and effectual" is not a foundation. plus you've the danger to initiate your individual issues contained in the Bay and characteristic a lady you want that ought to perhaps help encourage you to stay concentrated. thats my opinion. dont enable the exhilaration of being remote from mom and father and partying in l. a. devour your ideas. be real looking....and make the right decision

Answer 7

BAY area rocks...and is sooo clean, easy to get around and fun
L.A. is DIRTY!
wish I had your problem...