Yesterday I went over to my boyfriends' house for awhile after work. His family was in town and we were just hanging out watching a movie and stuff when there was a knock at the door. My bf got up and looked through the peephole and said that it was some little kid knocking on doors and he didnt answer it. About 7 minutes later it happened again, although this time it was more of a pounding. He got up and looked through the peephole again but the person had covered it, so he didnt answer it. It got late and I was tired, so I said goodbye and walked out the door. As I opened the door a piece of paper fell. It said: "Dan- I stopped by to say hi but you weren't home. See you tomorrow! <3 (heart), Amanda."
I brought it inside and said "hey, this fell." and he said, "haha. oh. chick from work."
2006-11-26 09:19:53 · 18 answers · asked by ~*Amy*~ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Now, my bf has been cheated on by 2 gfs and I know that he wouldnt cheat on me bc of the type of person that he is. Also, he pretty much works and then comes home and goes to bed bc he usually sleeps at my house or I sleep at his. My question is this...I didnt say anything to him but its bugging me. Im not the jealous type, but I am curious as to why this chick would randomly stop by his house at 11pmish and how/why she knows where he lives and why he would tell her the exact apartment #. Also, the note was written in two different colored markers and all pretty-like...like someone took the time to write it. Am I overreacting? I want to make it clear that Im not jealous and dont have a problem with him talking to or having friends that are girls. i am just curious about this. Like, the first time that their was a knock on the door...was it really a little kid? The knock was different the 2nd time, but still...I am just curious about it. Do I say something and how do I approach it?!
2006-11-26 09:24:44 · update #1
So I talked to him about it.Basically, the other day they thought they saw each other passing each other in the parking lot at the apt complex where he lives.At work she asked him if he lived in that complex and had seen him the other day and he said ya i think so.they found out that her bro lived next door and she was like well next time im over there ill stop and say hi! When there was a knock the first time and he said it was a lil kid he only saw her walking away (apparently shes like 5'1 and looks like a little kid) and the 2nd time she covered the peephole bc his dad looked too... She used to be a cheerleader (he told me about this chick once and said she was really peppy and sometimes drove him crazy) and always has a million different colored pens and markers w her at work (server) and since she was at her bros for a bit im guessing that she prob got bored and made the letter all pretty. then he got mad and said "why do you read into stuff so much?!" :-\ great.but i had reasons
2006-11-26 11:36:49 · update #2
I'd say have him on "probation" and check out and see if his attitude changed towards you. If he seems more distant now, and wants very little to do with you then the answer might be right there. Belive what you feel in your heart. Also, keep in mind that he might not be.
Sometimes men can have the most beautiful woman in the world, but they don't appreciate her. Men are very complex, they just like to have their fun. He might LOVE you but still want to sleep with someone else.
Hope you find out soon...I myself am questioning my bf's faithfulness. :[
2006-11-27 12:00:48 · answer #1 · answered by Mermaid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be easy to jump to conclusions and think that he is cheating on you or plans too but this girl may be chasing him and he didnt know how to deal with it so he just didnt answer the door,or maybe she needed to talk to him about a work thing or maybe they are just friends or maybe its all coincidence and there really was a little kid knocking on doors and someone covering the peephole. The list of maybes is endless.
Ask him to organise a night out with his work friends so you can meet them because "amanda seemed nice" and see what he says.
2006-11-26 09:29:44 · answer #2 · answered by kate d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you need help if you "know he's not cheating"? Apparently you don't KNOW he's not...you're worried that he might be, and you want us to assuage your fears by telling you the note means nothing.
As are you, so would I be suspicious about an incident like you describe. Perhaps you might find out if there is a chick at work named Amanda..and see if she dropped by that evening? If so, maybe you should give her a call and apologize for him not answering the door that night...tell her that you're his g/f and y'all were spending time with family and he didn't want to answer the door. See what kind of reaction you get.
Of course, if there is no coworker named Amanda...you've got other things to think about.
2006-11-26 09:29:10 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you should have a conversation with your boyfriend and ask him what's going on. Don't jump to conclusion but something may be going on. It could just be that a girl has a crush on him and he's not interested or he could very well be cheating. What makes you so sure he's not?
If he wasn't cheating, he would have opened the door when you were there and allowed you to see who was knocking. I smell dishonesty in this relationship.
2006-11-26 09:22:39 · answer #4 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with you. It would just be too weird with them staying in Your house. If your husband says that they have to ask you then you need to just tell them the truth. Tell them it would make you feel very uncomfortable in your own home. Tell them where some local hotels are and just try to be as nice as possible about it. The same thing happened to us last year when we moved out of state. My husbands ex thought she was going to come visit and stay with us. I just honestly told her it wasn't a good idea and I would help her find a hotel room. She has Never visited. It is best that you Don't let them run over youlike that.
2016-03-29 10:01:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think again.....this is a very big red flag, and you need to monitor the situation without seeming paranoid....just try and be alert to all situations like this, and I'm sure time will tell....either he's cheating, or he has a wierd stalker chick at work.....and if he hasn't told you before about weird stalker-chick......
2006-11-26 09:24:27 · answer #6 · answered by McBeth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some where in the back of your mind you are wondering if he is cheating or you wouldn't be asking the question. So open your eyes a bit wider and see what is going on. IF it was on the up and up he would of answered the door and introduced her to you. :o(
2006-11-26 09:24:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you need to decide if it is a problem for you that your b/f might have female friends. Second of all, from personal experience, I'd say that you maybe just need to give him the benefit of the doubt. Unless of course you've been having doubts as to his fidelity..otherwise let it go for now.
2006-11-26 09:23:11 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. MP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
o wow, that's a pretty sticky situation to be in. If i was u, i'd try to talk to my bf about what's going through my mind. If there's something he has to hide, it would probably be obvious from the way he would act. Dont jump to conclusions too quickly...
2006-11-26 09:25:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definately question him get all the details. See if you can get ahold of miss Amanda find out her story see if they're really just friends. You have a right to know. Look out for yourself.
2006-11-26 09:26:51 · answer #10 · answered by Candace F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋