If a women is in love with you & you have been friends for many-many years, would you want her to tell you ( both are separated from their spouses 1 for 10 yrs & 1 for 6 years ) OR would you rather things remain the same? You think telling himn would change the friendship ( I wouldnt want that ) We are not children 42 & 44 Have known each other since I was 16. We went on & had Families. 10 years ago we met up again on this box ( weird huh ) Have been talking on here & phone the whole time. We even met up last month. ** I asked for men to respond, cause men & women do not think alike much & I need a mans point of view. Thank you .
2006-11-26 09:03:33 · 6 answers · asked by Kim 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There are a couple of things you have to think of here. Are you the type of woman that he is attracted to? Do you think that he might feel the same as you do?
If you think both of those are true, then tell him. If he feels the same then you will have a great relationship. Otherwise, you might distance your friendship. The one thing you mentioned was that you did not want your relationship with him to change, but it definitely will by telling him that you feel more than friendship for him.
A good friend of mine never told me how she felt about me and it was best that she did not. I love her as a friend, but I have never been attracted to her. I found out how much she liked me when she met the guy that she later married. He was very much like me and she told me then that she picked him because he was like me. The only difference is that he is very jealous. Which is unfortunate, because I lost my close friend to his jealousy.
Take care,
Troy
2006-11-26 09:23:38 · answer #1 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the risk is worth it at that age. I may be much younger(20) and not quite experienced enough to really answer this but I know one thing, when I'm 40 I want to be single and CONTEMPT with it, or in a fully commited marrage, that's why I think you should let him know how you feel asap!
2006-11-26 17:10:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it varies from one man to another
for me i would like her to tell me in case it's obvious
that both of us have the same feelings
so u know better
if its obvious that he is sending u all the signals
or he is just having u as his old friend and a friend
who have similar experiences and ups and downs..
so u said u wouldnt like to lose his friendship
so i think u should wait
and see what will happen
i mean
if it was meant for u and him to get together
u will
in the right time and in the right way
so try not to rush it not to blow it
and good luck anywayz
2006-11-26 17:20:48 · answer #3 · answered by alexandre 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you two have been there and done that
a 20 something year freindship talking about good and bad
tell him... it can't get worse besides he's gotta have a clue after all these years and similar circumstances
2006-11-26 17:39:51 · answer #4 · answered by lms 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know how you feel. You both may find joy in the results.
2006-11-26 17:16:57 · answer #5 · answered by Axeman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him - now
2006-11-26 17:06:26 · answer #6 · answered by Dr. Brooke 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋