right there was this guy that i really liked and he chose my little sister over me which was really hard for me to accept and it was just horrible i hated it (my sister and this guy both knew i liked him)
But as u do most things i got over it moved on and the rest now i have this great bf that is lovely, but the problem is i saw him the other week and all my feelings came back now i can't get him out of my head..... well i also have a bigger problem im going to this pub thing next week and i have to see him there it is going to be horrible and i dnt no wot to do??
I feel like if i see him its gunna effet me n my boyfriend i don't know what to do plz help??
2006-11-26 08:59:03 · 22 answers · asked by lil_sugar1990 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sweetie if you think it will affect you and your boyfriend that that means that you havent gotten passed it like you thought. The only way to make sure that you are passed it is by going and seeing him and feel great that you are with a great man that loves you and appreciates you. But if you cant do that that it is not fair for your boyfriend that you are keeping him by your side when you dont love him and he doesnt fullfill you. Then you have to make the right decision and let your boyfriend know the truth and let him go. that guy doesnt deserve you anyway, he didnt see the great person in you, why give him importance? Move on.
2006-11-26 09:03:47 · answer #1 · answered by ahuga 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are three things you could do. Go to the pub thing without your boyfriend, telling him where you are going what you are doing, and why, and deal with the situation as it develops. Go to the pub thing WITH your boyfriend, still telling him before you go that you used to have feelings for this guy that will be there & you are not sure what is going to ensue, but allow you to deal with it without him stepping in. Don't go to the pub thing and do something else with your boyfriend that is special and memorable. Personally, I like the last choice the best. What makes you think that other guy is going to behave any differently now than he did when he chose your little sister over you ??? In any case, you ultimately need to do what is going to make you HAPPY. And remember. Happiness in the long term is far better than happiness in the short term.
2006-11-26 17:14:16 · answer #2 · answered by Nia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just forget about him it's his lost. He probably wasn't even mature enough to let you know that he wasn't interested in you before he got with your little sister. To me he doesn't sound so much like a man at all. If he really did care he would had let you know, especially if he knew that you liked him. I say forget about him and enjoy your relationship with your new boyfriend because he deserves your attention and not some guy who doesn't care. If anything he'll know what he lost when he sees the both of you together and if he does tries to come at you just blow him off. Good Luck!
2006-11-26 17:05:23 · answer #3 · answered by Zaiza 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, first of all this guy has been with your sister and they both knew you liked him. That makes them both jerks. You can go to the pub and who knows what might happen. You might even get a little toasted and get together with him. That would make you a jerk because you have this wonderful boyfriend that loves and cares about you. My advise would be to skip the pub. you need to make wise decisions. You need to eliminate your self from this sick love triangle you have going. This guy cant be all that! Think smart
2006-11-26 17:27:08 · answer #4 · answered by girlio33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not old feelings that have come back. It's your anger resurfacing. The only reason you think any old feelings are coming is because you are telling yourself why he should have been yours. But the thing is, you don't need to do that because you have someone else in your life. And this guy probably thinks that you are completely helpless without him, so the best way to prove him wrong is to ignore him. When you see him next week, pretend he isn't in the room and be grateful you have someone in your life that cares about you.
2006-11-26 17:05:19 · answer #5 · answered by bsbfrk411 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just concrete on your loving BF and not live in the past after all he picked the sister and not you so stick of what u have not what you don't have and you need to ask would it be worth it to lose the loving BF that most girls wished they had as well
2006-11-26 17:01:20 · answer #6 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a hard one to answer. There are so many emotions wrapped up in this one.
I think you have to spend more time with your bf and see the good things about him. Remember him and look deep into his heart. I think if you can bond with him it will help you break your feelings toward the first guy.
Hope this helps,
Eric
2006-11-26 17:04:16 · answer #7 · answered by Eric S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By the sounds of things, you are a lot better off with your present boyfriend than you could ever be with this other guy. If you have to face him, then you just have to be yourself. Thate might sound really lame, but it is the truth. You have found a nice new guy, you shouldn't screw it up all because of this guy, because, by the sound of things,he simply isn't worth it.
2006-11-26 17:06:40 · answer #8 · answered by Sebi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your right it will effect u an ur bf . at the end of the day he he has been with ur sis then u shouldnt go there at all u need to respect ur sis. so just try and forget him or u could be makin the biggest mistake of ur life
2006-11-26 18:23:54 · answer #9 · answered by Nickie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is not worth it. just look at him as a brother since he is dating your sister and concentrate on your bfriend. If he chose your sister it means he wasnt meant for you. everything happens for a reason and forcing things only brings tears. good luck
2006-11-26 17:03:23 · answer #10 · answered by talie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋