My mother is a sociopath and only believes what she says, how do I overcome that? She made money from my daughters death after refusing to pay for the cardboard box to cremate her in. And she is wealthy! It was their gun, and they yelled at her right before it happened. He is a doctor and she is a therypist. And she has told me that it is none of my buisness what they do with their money, or how they got it! I havent spoken to her for over 5 years, since my daughters funeral (when I walked in on my step father working on my daughters life Ins. policy at her funeral). It has also affected my relationship with the rest of her family. They seem to forget the iron, telephone, and cast iron skillet she beat me with as a child. Why do they forget that? They saw it? Why do they not hold her accountable, instead they blame me? Tell me I need to fix this because she is getting old.It is because she has money isnt it? Sad but true...Any advice would be greatly appriciated.
2006-11-26 08:21:50 · 6 answers · asked by April was here 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
There are some cases when you can fix a broken family
But there are others when there is too many emotions and situations involved to ever be fixed.
It seems like yours is the latter. The only thing that you can do is work on other areas of your life, and try to be happy. It's not fair for them to blame you, and it doesn't sound like a good situation for you to be in. If theres any way for you to distance yourself from it, do so.
2006-11-26 08:28:06 · answer #1 · answered by ladyjeansntee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't fix a broken family... my dad is a violate alcoholic and so is my step mother, my dad raped me when i was 9 yrs old, i didn't tell anyone until i was 13, and I'm the one the family blames, they tell me i need to apologize to my dad, and i refuse, they all seem to forget the beatings, the middle of the nite wake ups when i was 4 all the way up until i left when i was 14... keeping him from beating on my 2 little sisters, there is no way to fix a broken family, i wouldn't forgive your mother if it was me, it has been almost 5 yrs since i have spoken to any of my family, because i truly believe they are wrong, go to a counselor/psychiatrist, and talk to them about all of this, do not keep it inside... you are right in what you are doing, i wouldn't fix it, even if it were possible, and i am truly sorry for the loss of your daughter... and i am very sorry that your family is such idiots, good luck and God bless!!
2006-11-26 08:50:03 · answer #2 · answered by babyatgradys 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we have to know when to not forgive the unforgivable. And forgiving only comes when compassion for the overwelms the hurt and anger--and we don't need to know why any more.
There is so much destructive and appalling behavior, it's going to be mighty hard to forgive and move on. True forgiveness cannot be conjured because we want it. I forgave something I thought was unforgivable because I heard their story and where they came from that compassion for them pushed aside anything. And why didnt matter anymore.
Please don't put yourself in a toxic situation for the cash. They rely on the power their money gives them and they know. If you love her, tell her so and tell her you are not her whipping boy and the only way you have have a conversation is to discuss the big purple elephant in the room too.
2006-11-26 08:36:05 · answer #3 · answered by donewiththismess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They have shown no love and no respect for you all this time. especially as a child.
You don't need family like that . they are more strangers then family.
Don't let them get to you any more/
Ignore and walk away from all the misery they have given you.
2006-11-26 08:26:36 · answer #4 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Counceling is so good for family's we all come fron a disfunctional family no family is perfect. You all just need to deal with some one perfessional
2006-11-26 08:24:54 · answer #5 · answered by Fruitful1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋