I am very smart and interested in adult, not teen-ager things. In Septembre I met an older man (32 years of age) on the métro. He is from another country and travels around the world. We talked well with each other and went to dinner. I decided to give my virginity to him and it was very happy but I thought it would be just one time. But he did write to me like his promises and then we write and couriel (email) and telephon and when he come again I introduce him to my mother and grandmother and he stay with us.
They approve of him as my lover for now but not of course to think of marriage. He is really nice to me and treats me as equal. He is everything a teen-age girl dreams for in a older-man lover. My problem is that I tell him I am 17 when I am just 14! 14 is age of majority for make love in my country. I am afraid when I tell truth he think I not honest about other things. How to tell him? I ask my mom and grand-mere to leave it for me to do but I worry. Help, please!
2006-11-26 08:19:32 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok first of all, I don't think a lot of people are paying attention to the question being asked. She's the age of majority, which means that where she is, she can give permission for sex at that age. No one is going to jail.
Second, there are worse things in the world than a 14 yr old consenting to have sex with a 32 yr old. Try a 23 yr old consenting to marry a 28 yr old only to divorce and take all his assets 3 years later. What can I say, boys fall in love, real men get married and sign all their assets away to some *****.
Third, I know there are some permissive countries in the world, but I somewhat question the authenticity of this post. I mean I don't have an issue with what you just said regarding the sex (besides the lie, which I think you may be able to hammer out yourself...if he's not going to jail I don't think he'll mind), but I've almost NEVER heard of the situation where the family is good with you being **** buddies, but not with marriage. However truth is stranger than fiction and all of that. All I can say is, if you aren't in it for the gold digging and etc, be honest.
2006-11-26 08:48:10 · answer #1 · answered by Reckless Ronin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What country do you live in? You are 14 and your grandmother approves of you having a 32 year old lover? How is this possible?
2006-11-26 16:24:14 · answer #2 · answered by Charlee's Mama 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1st, what does this say about your mom & grandmother not good they can be in trouble with the law, 2nd if the man is from a different country than the U.S. your age may not mean a thing. Some country 13 is leagle but not in the U. S.
2006-11-26 16:39:58 · answer #3 · answered by larlonewolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, in which country do 14 year olds make love to 32 year old men? Whatever. I think you should tell him because it would be worse if he found out on his own. You shouldn't make love to him anymore though. Ever been to church? You should try it.
2006-11-26 16:27:28 · answer #4 · answered by xfootballstarx87 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u are 14 and ur grandmother approves of your 32 yr old lover who u met in the metro? which country is this?
2006-11-26 16:26:51 · answer #5 · answered by L W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he's going to care. He's already a 32 year old man that thinks he's sleeping with a 17 year old girl. He's already a scumbag, I don't see him caring that much about 3 more years.
2006-11-26 16:24:10 · answer #6 · answered by Chris J 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im sorry but that is just disgusting that u like a 32 man.
u r 14!!
jeez u should look for someone that IS UR OWN AGE.
and if he knows u r 17 he should back off and find someone else.
becauz thats just perverted.
2006-11-26 16:25:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your family approves of this?!! This man could go to jail for rape! You are being totally unfair not telling him the truth. Honestly, I can't even understand that he doesn't realize that you're younger than 17!
2006-11-26 16:24:30 · answer #8 · answered by mich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had a friend who went though this and i would just ask him to meet up with you and have a talk and tell him your real age and if he gets upset or mad try and ask him if he'll wait till you are older and may thing will be better but if he says he doesn't care then i wouldn't really worry about it.......maybe he loves you for who u are and don't care how old u are........hope it helps you
2006-11-26 16:24:15 · answer #9 · answered by sunflowerkids1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell him the truth and then move on with your life cause you can get that man put in prison cause you are a minor and you are to dammn young to be dationg anyways so dont do anything stupid i am not trying to be mean so sorry if i hurt your feelings
2006-11-26 16:23:48 · answer #10 · answered by angie f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋