We were introduced about a month and a half ago through another friend. She's married and has one kid with a dude. Apparently their marriage is very rocky and he's not the greatest to her. Either way, we just started hanging out at the bar the one night (her husband was there and he was very friendly to me) and we ended up talking to each other all night while everyone else was off somewhere else. Every week now we've ended up doing the same thing, just talking for hours at the bar and we have this super strong chemistry that I've rarely experienced with a woman. The friend that introduced all of us even noticed something was weird between us. Either way, the last time I was there we were all setting kind of close and our legs sort of bumped into each other and we didn't pull away....just sort of let them touch for a while....bad touchy feely! But yeah, I'm trying to avoid it, but it's really tough...I really like her.
2006-11-26 08:16:12 · 18 answers · asked by Bill B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
that's cute, the thing between you and her... but my advice is: DO NOT---i repeat---NOT MAKE A MOVE ON HER until AFTER her relationship with her husband is OVER. of course it's bad if you're falling for a married woman. because if their relationship ends BECAUSE you two went ahead and got together... then it'll be on your conscience forever. really. i mean, that couple might still have a chance to fix the problems they have, you know?
so just lie low... if things between them get better and they're perfectly happy, then just move on and forget about everything. you guys can still be friends if you want, but that's not recommended.... if their marriage ends, then that's great for you.
dont TRY to mess things up for them. after all, her main man is her husband as of now. he comes first. let her extract herself from her situation, and then do whatever.
another thing to consider: you also have to realize that she could cheat on you as well, if you and her do go ahead with the relationship---someone who cheats on their spouse will most likely cheat on you too. and you dont want that to happen.. you dont want to be left all alone, torn apart.... ya know?
good luck. =)
2006-11-26 08:23:09 · answer #1 · answered by CooL_GirL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Ex fell for many women over the years....now he's married to one of them and they are both miserable...In the meantime, I got a hefty child support payment for many years, the house, which I sold to get one I wanted, and I am alone and very, very happy and am very close to all 4 of our kids while he barely knows them after almost 18 years away from them.
Do everyone involved a favor and find an UNATTACHED LADY
2006-11-26 16:27:19 · answer #2 · answered by nancy w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is going to go down a road someone isn't going to want it could be any of you either way you and this woman need to figure out what you are going to do affairs are not the best thing for a marriage you just might have to walk away from the situation as hard as it may be dm
2006-11-26 16:21:07 · answer #3 · answered by dave m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better get ur hip-boot on bruther, there's stormy weather ahead. I would'nt want anyone confusing my wife. That's of course, just what a troubled relationship needs. but you do ur thing, be wary, she could ultimately cozy up to someone else should you win the day. Past behavior is the best predicter of future behavior.
2006-11-26 16:22:25 · answer #4 · answered by NIGHTSHADE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want a life that is full of trouble go ahead and make your life miserable,,,if you dont want that ,,stay out of trouble my friend,,a married woman is committed now to her husband,,and you dont like it either if you have a wife then your wife flirts with other man..do you?..Theres a lot of interesting girl out there,,who are lots of fun,spirit,and energy,,im sure you can find someone who are not yet attached,,,keep the faith
2006-11-26 16:23:25 · answer #5 · answered by Diet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as if to me they could be in an open relationship or possibly even swingers. Has it occurred to you they both may want to have you join them? That is far more common than you know. If this is not the case, I would not pursue her separately, sorry if that sounds prudish... because her husband seems to be nice to you. Question... how do you know their marriage is rocky? Very few marrigaes in turmoil will have such approachable husbands, FYI.
2006-11-26 16:34:32 · answer #6 · answered by azcuriousm4u 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you have a relationship with a married woman, it is highly likely that she will cheat on you as well as her husband. Do you want to set yourself up to have your heart broken?
2006-11-26 16:20:10 · answer #7 · answered by AnnieD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ar probably going to be hurt. I would not try to influence her just see of she stays with her husband. If she does not then super go for it. If she stays back off, nothing good can come frim it.
2006-11-26 16:20:27 · answer #8 · answered by reddemonwi55 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run for the hills, u dont need to complicate your life with that mess rite now
2006-11-26 16:18:44 · answer #9 · answered by joss.stone10 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could be bad. try liking her just as a friend and avoid all unwanted advances from her and don't you give any either
2006-11-26 16:20:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋