How do you know that you are "Ready to be a mom?"?

Question

I would like to meet a new mother who has recently given birth, i want to share the experience. How did it feel when you found out that you are pregnant?
Thanks

Answer 1

I don't think any person is ever "ready" to be a parent. You could always find one excuse or another why it's not the "perfect" time to have a child. If everyone waited for that, no one would ever have children!

When I found out that I was pregnant with my son, Jack (he just turned 4 years old) and my son Josh, (just turned 1 year old) it was a wonderful, exhilarating experience. I couldn't stop smiling and I felt wonderful through the whole time, except for some physical discomfort. The only thing I was a bit anxious about with my firstborn was the actual birth...was it going to be just awfully painful? Was I going to be good at it, or would I be a complete maniac? It turned out allright and everyone said I was a trooper. Believe me, you forget about all of it once you see your baby's angelic face.

On the other side, an unplanned pregnancy can be very upsetting, and it's a very tough and emotional time. Women in this situation should always be aware that obstacles can seem so insurmountable with your hormones flowing and the uncertainty of the future. I've been there. I know. I made the wrong choice 17 years ago and I have regretted it since then. Now, the only thing I can do is warn other women and convey MY experience. I encourage them to embrace hope and faith, and to reject despair and pessimism. Receive and treasure the promise of beauty that love that has been made by the news of a new baby to come. Things always work out if you just believe.

Anyway, that's my two cents. Hope it was what you were looking for. God bless.

Answer 2

No one really knows if they are ready to be a mom but generally your gut feelings are right and if you feel ready you are!! But being pregnant for the first time is terrifying if if you are ready to be a mom and all those what ifs? will be firing around in your head but believe me the minute your child is born it is a bond that no one could even begin to explain ready or not!!!! I remember being in labour and saying i didn't feel old enough or capable and how do these young moms cope and the midwife laughed! whether that be because i was 27 at the time or because this was a natural remark from a woman in labour I'll never know! All i do know she came to visit me on the ward after i had my daughter and she said 'now you know your ready and can see how all these others cope cant you?' and she was right! Because its the first we all think this way1 (with my second i was more scared of the labour cuz i knew what to expect!!! being a mom didn't bother me!). Relax and enjoy every minute it is a wonderful thing even if at the start you don't feel too good enjoy it as your children grow too fast and it all becomes a very distant memory which is sad! Relax and enjoy and good luck with motherhood it is great i wouldn't change it for the world!!!

Answer 3

Becoming a mom is the best thing that has ever happened to me. my youngest is 1 1/2 at the minute but tomorrow i find out wheteher or not number three is on the way.
you just know when you are ready, sounds weird but it is true, you just get this feeling that this is what you want, you also feel kind of empty until you know that you are getting a child.
i won't lie to you, the actual giving birth part was the worst experience in my life, and i have been through some stuff, but after when you hold your baby nothing else matters.
it's a big responsibility but well worth it if it's what you want.
like i said i find out tomorrow if i am expecting again, and if i am i will be wearing a huge smile for a lonmg time to come

Answer 4

I dont think anything prepares you to become a mum for the first time, not even being pregnant.
However thats not to say that it isnt the best experiences of my life but its nothing like what I imagined when I bacame pregnant.
If you think you could give up drinking, clubbing and whatever other hobbies/interests you have for the best part of a year then this might be an indication.
If youve had your own life and done what you want to do, you and your partner love and are committed to one and other, and you both are ready to play second fiddle to each other to make way for a very demanding baby.
I think it is the hardest and most important job you will ever do, if youve read all this and think.... yeah, so we want a baby more than any of that then you probably are ready.

Answer 5

I had a career, as does my husband. We spent many happy years working and taking hols and just going anywhere we wanted to at any time without any hindrances. At age 39, I still didn't feel ready but we thought if it happens, it happens and if it doesn't we still have each other. I felt a bit sorry for hubby though - he's 6 years younger and I knew he'd be a great dad and he loves kids. So, whilst in Paris for our wedding anniversary, we had a long chat about it and resigned ourselves to the fact that we wouldn't have any kids. I conceived that weekend!!! Think it was because we'd settled it and a worry was lifted from me!

Anyway, I didn't find out I was pregnant till about 8 weeks later and felt really special! My husband was overjoyed. I gave birth to our first and only child at age 40. AND I started driving lessons when I was 3 months pregnant and passed first time at 6 months pregnant! I'd had a phobia about driving all my life so my pregnancy was an amazing incentive to me. I've also been stay at home mum all this time - and intend to continue to be!!!

He's now 4.5yrs old, started school full time and my only regret is that, had I known sooner what a joy he'd be and how much love there is............I wish I'd have started sooner and maybe had a second one too!

Regards.........

Answer 6

there is never a right time or a wrong time, obviously i dont agree with 13 year old becoming parents, but you can never put a specific age, time or situation on when to become a mum. I carried my first child, and realising i was going to be a mum didnt really hit me until i was about 8 months pregnant. Yes i was going to have a baby, but to sit and think, christ i am going to be a mother. The first pregnancy is so special, treasure it, and learn from it, as the second flies by and before you know it they are here. Being a mum is the best

Answer 7

How do you know you are ready? Do we ever feel we are ready?
Females need to think about this every time they have sex...

It is cool you are wanting to meet others who are just now going through this!
How did it feel when you found out that you are pregnant? Very Happy until the guy I was with for 4 years freaked out and left us... Second child I was married and we were both thrilled, third the same way, thrilled.....

Answer 8

I have been pregnant 5 times. Each time I felt differently depending on circumstances, ranging from terror, disbelief to absolute joy. Losing 2 babies made me treasure what I had and I'm not sure anyone is truly ever ready to be a mum. I was in labour with my 1st baby and screamed "I've changed my mind! I don't want to be pregnant!!!" LOL Luckily, I adored him when he finally arrived after 36hrs of agony. I have 3 surviving sons aged 21, 19 and 8 years old. I had difficult pregnancies but don't regret a single one.

Answer 9

You dont know you are ready to be a mom until the baby is born. All through my pregnancy i was scared and it jus didnt seem real. Then i went into labour - panic hit and did not go. Then my beautiful daughter was born i was shocked. Sittin there clutchin her thinkin is this really happening or is it a dream but from that first second i held her in my arms. I knew i was ready and i knew id do a great job. Best feeling ever.

Answer 10

Well that's not really for someone else to answer. Its a matter of what the person feels is right for them and their life. If they are prepared to carry and bring a life into the world and understand the full responsibilities that tie with it, then sure. They have to understand and make sure that they can afford and provide for a baby on their own, and realize that having a baby is a permanent decision. Its nothing like babysitting! It is for life.

I do not have children of my own yet, but I have been in the delivery room and its a beautiful experience.