Me and my guy has been dating for 8 months. I love him very much and i know he loves me. We have been through allot in the past couple months. We lost our first baby together. Since then it seems to be going sour. We got into a big fight the mon night and he got violent and was trying to leave but i wouldn't let him. He didn't hit me. I just cain't see myself without him. He came home from work the next day and told me he was sorry. Then last night we got into it again but just arguing. It hurt my feelings cuz he kept bring up my mistakes that ive made and throwing stuff in my face that i trusted him with. and it's only when he drinks. Tonight were going to sit down and talk. He told me lastnight that we may not be ment. But yet he tells me he loves me that night and this morning. What am i suppose to do? I love him and do anything for this man but i don't want this to be routine and him to forgive me and look at the good im doing now. I know we can save it. Is there any advice.
2006-11-26 08:10:11 · 5 answers · asked by everlasting_matchstick 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just a couple of red flags: the drinking and him bringing up things you trusted him with and thought were settled. First off, think long and hard about the guy you are with. I'm not saying he's not worth it, because I can't tell. Only you can search your heart and get to know him better to make the ultimate decision.
Other than these red flags, I would suggest that you need some materials to help you relate to each other better. I would suggest Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus. You should listen to the tapes together and talk about things. You need to get to know more about each other.
For instance, men do need to "take off" when they are upset. On the flip side, women need to be listened to. I don't think you two understand enough about each other and if you leave it longer, I think things will get worse.
I hope it works out for you one way or the other. If he is a good guy, then put some effort into it, as long as he is willing to as well. You're not going to solve anything by fighting--that gets you nowhere. You need to be constructive. Try your local library if cost is an issue. GOOD LUCK!
Additional Edit: Please be careful of the violence too. He must show signs that this will stop.
2006-11-26 08:35:22 · answer #1 · answered by Taramasu2U 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said you lost a baby together, that is a big hit towards emotions. Did you ever go to counseling after that? If he loves you and you love him then counseling would be the first direction the two of you should look. Talking with someone could help a lot. Then the two of you could talk out your issues in a controlled environment without alcohol being involved.
2006-11-26 08:27:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i see your going through alot.Well ever since you where pregneat did he start being nicer to you and careing.Maby he loved that baby alot and was looking forward to having it with you.Ever since you lost your baby that's where he mighta changed.If that's the case talk to him and ask him whats been bugging between the relationship.If he clearly says that he doesn't think it's working out between you to obviously he found another girl he likes and wants to leave of he just lost all intrest in you.I HOPE THAT WORKS GOOD LUCK.
2006-11-26 08:23:00 · answer #3 · answered by stacy_diva_girl619 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you and your boyfriend think that you can work it out then by all means communicate.
2006-11-26 08:31:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you both sound really young.
2006-11-26 08:17:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋