Single women - why do you go out to bars and clubs with a bunch of other women? Don't you know that this will intimidate men from approaching you? Is that the idea - you go out with a bunch of girls to prevent men from trying to talk to you?
2006-11-26 07:55:57 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi... Yes, we do go out in packs to keep men from approaching us, it is easier to ignore the guys when there is a group of people with you. Personally I do not go out to the clubs to pick up guys, I go to dance. However, I do know a couple of girls will leave the group and go sit alone so that she is more approachable.
There are guys at the clubs who will come dance with our groups, I don't know if they are just braver but the single girls just move close to the guys and the others move away just be brave.... good luck :D
2006-11-26 08:05:03 · answer #1 · answered by gg 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I used to go out with a group of friends because:
1. There really is safety in numbers... see #3 below.
2. I didn't want to have the whole "trolling for men" look or attitude that calls in far too many real sleaze bag come-ons instead of invitations to dance or talk or just flirt.
3. I knew I could have fun flirting with the guys and partying with my friends without so much danger (can you spell 'date rape drug'?)
and...
4. If a guy was interested enough to approach me in an intimidating situation, then he was probably worth taking a closer look at! Whatever my intentions... lol!
So, buck up Big Boy! Take a chance!
You might risk getting shot down in flames, but if you do manage to face that challenge with style and grace you will leave a lasting (great!) impression on all of them! I know my husband's bravery and willingness to make me feel like he'd face the Devil himself to have the opportunity to get to know me sure won my heart, not to mention my 'favor'! **she says with a Big Grin and sighs**
2006-11-26 08:26:12 · answer #2 · answered by toastposties 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ever heard the term "strength in numbers"? It isn't done to prevent men from talking to us, it's done to prevent men from taking advantage. If you're a nice guy then you would understand and not have a problem, but if you're a creep that's when the intimidation factor works in our favor. Besides who's to say you can't talk to all of us. Maybe you'll get a little more action then what you set out for.
We do play well together.
Just kiddin, but it makes ya think doesn't it.
2006-11-26 08:02:28 · answer #3 · answered by servant2heaven 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No we dont do it to prevent men from talking to us. It feels good to have your friends there to support you and help keep your self esteem up. I mean I would hate to go to a club and sit there bymyself and then no one approach me the entire night. I mean that would bum a girl out!! Thats why we would rather go woth friends as like a support group!
2006-11-26 08:01:49 · answer #4 · answered by bktp37 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Women that go to bars alone are typically looked at as loose and waiting to be picked up by a guy. Of the women that go to bars alone, some are hoping to be picked up (or pick up someone) and others are there just to have a cocktail and hang out a while...no pressure.
However, it's more fun to go with friends...just as many guys go to bars with friends. If a guy is too intimated to approach a woman because she is with friends, then perhaps he should address his issues with that (and overcome his fear), and not find fault with her for not desiring to go sit at a bar alone so he feels more comfy approaching her.
...and a lot of women that go to bars with their girlfriends don't care a whole lot if guys approach them or not...it may be nice to get attention and perhaps even meet someone she'd like to get to know better...but her primary reason for being there is to party or relax with her girlfriends...
...and don't forget guys, it's perfectly acceptable for chicks to approach guys these days...so even if she is with a pack, if you catch her eye, she'll find a way to let you know and probably give you the opportunity to approach her sans buddies...
2006-11-26 08:04:33 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Well first of all it would be rather boring to sit by yourself. And what makes you think we go out to find men. We dont need men to survive..its a bonus but not a need. It is much more fun to go out w/girls and let loose plus any guy that is willing to come over to a group of girls is someone who goes after what he wants and is a survivor himself.
2006-11-26 08:01:05 · answer #6 · answered by Ivory_Flame 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am single and never go out with other bunch of other women,so I don't know what you are talking about.
2006-11-26 08:00:03 · answer #7 · answered by venus11224 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ladies night out, you idiot! Safety in numbers... Confident men aren't intimidated; when they see what they want, regardless, they go for it! Believe me, I've been chosen many times over by men who approached me with plenty of women at the table, it's all about eye contact, that one woman at the table will definitely pick up your signal, if interested...
2006-11-26 08:03:43 · answer #8 · answered by motherkc 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Because most single women are terribly shy and can hardly communicate on their own with someone of the opposite sex.So they hunt us down in packs it makes them feel more powerful and less vulnerable.They are very delicate beings when they are sober and not married that is.
2006-11-26 08:01:08 · answer #9 · answered by james16902000 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
haha no I don't go out with my friends to intimidate you! I go out with my friends because it is a hell of allot more fun than going out by myself! My advice to you is to get up some confidence and talk to one of those chicks anyways! Don't be so scared, and if you are really that intimidated than try and intercept them when they are alone...or atleast when they have not as many other girls surrounding them.
2006-11-26 08:03:07 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋