How can I say no to my wife?

Question

I married again after said goodbye to my first wife. My second one is sweet, but she has a wired sex request. She always wear pantyhoses when we having sex and she thinks that was sexy. I felt so awkward to suck her pantyhoses-coverd toes when she asked me to do so. She seemed so excited about that, so I really don't want to hert her feelings. So how can I say no on this issue?

Answer 1

What color is your wife's pantyhoses?

If she wears black, just try a pair of nude one and you'll have a totally different feelings!

Tell me what do you think!

Answer 2

Open communication is very important. If you can't talk about this, how can you talk about more important things? I would simply sit her down (outside of the bedroom) and tell her that you are somewhat uncomfortable with the idea of having her wear pantyhose during sex. Tell her what turns you on (the sight of her naked legs?) and why you care about her so much. Perhaps try to reach a compromise...maybe you'll be okay if she wears pantyhose once in a while, with the feet cut off. Whatever you do, don't tell her that her "fetish" is weird. She'll resent you if you do.

Answer 3

I'm sorry you're in this situation. But, I kinda get where your wife is coming from. It sounds like you're being a little bit of a wimp. My take on this is that women like it when a man "takes control." (within bounds, of course) Don't ask if you can hug. Man up. Just do it. If you hug her and she rejects you, then that's something for the marriage counselor to figure out. Sounds like there's passive aggressive behavior on both parts. It's the worst kind, I think, because you can't move forward in life if you're worried about protecting yourself. Try not to be so wrapped up in her reaction to you - keep your focus on yourself. It's the only thing you can control. Good luck.

Answer 4

Maybe you should take a shower/bath together, then hit the sack before she can get her hose on. Tell her about your feelings. It is unusual but I've heard of worse.

Maybe wearing pantyhose is a way of keeping a barrier between you, I don't know.

I, too, believe that honesty is the best policy.

Answer 5

If you find her request repulsive or just something you really don't want to do, then tell her. You are not responsible for her reaction or feelings...she needs to respect that it's not something you want to do. Her feelings are not any more important than yours.

Perhaps the two of you can come up with something that you would both find erotic and stimulating, to replace this fetish behavior of hers. Talk to her about it.

If you cannot communicate, you don't have much of a relationship anyway. Communication is part of the foundation of anything that lasts.

Answer 6

Just tell her how you feel, not very many people realize how great it is to have a totally open relationship. I sure wish I could! I mean some things should be kept to your self...but just tell her that the hose gotta go sometimes :) And well the whole licking toes thing...its pretty gross to me but hey do it for her sometimes if it make sher randy!! Rip em off!! lol

Answer 7

Switch it out. Do what she wants for ahile then she needs to be able to do what you want. But if the whole pantyhose thing grosses you out then you need to discuss it with her and let her know that you dont like her with pantyhose on... tell her you rather see her completely naked instead.

Answer 8

You don't have to say no. Sometimes she can take them off and other times leave them on. That is what relationships are about.

If I were wild about my wife or girlfriend then I would drink her dirty bath water!

Answer 9

Well, if you aren't man enough to fulfill her requests, perhaps you should get a substitute in... ;)

Love a woman in stockings and high heels... And nothing else.. :)

Answer 10

well she is your wife so you should be able to tell her just say "can u plez not wear those i think it would b sexxier if u didnt" it shouldnt hurt her feelings so just tell her! good luck and hope this helps!