I gave him a job and he screwed me over - then he bad mouthed me to all my business contacts. On several occasions I have left my home intent on causing him severe pain but came home before I got to him. These impulses are getting stronger and closer together. Help ?
2006-11-26 07:49:08 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
fill him in
2006-11-26 07:51:52 · answer #1 · answered by STEVE T 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Cut off all ties. If your business contacts know you well enough, they will not be taken in by him. Some people you cannot help, and your brother has blown his final chance with you by throwing your help in your face.
Carry on as you are by leaving the house and going for a good walk, as it is obviously relieving your anger, then when you get home, have one of those boxing punch bags, and thump the hell out of it.
2006-11-26 10:50:05 · answer #2 · answered by Thia 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well while you may want to hurt him, doing so is really not the answer here. You can however refuse to help him again until he can proves he deserves help, and can apologize for what he did. To help control these impulses try finding other ways to get rid of some of this anger, perhaps hobbies, or just working off some of it through physcial exercise.
2006-11-26 07:59:27 · answer #3 · answered by HopeDasher 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Until you manage to take some action, your brother will continue to exert control over your emotions. Seek help from a counselor/therapist or anger management program.
The last thing you need is to do something in anger and then have to suffer the consequences for that too.
Good luck
2006-11-26 22:43:16 · answer #4 · answered by tysonian22 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
PLEASE WALK AWAY!!!! You'll be the one to go to prison and he would finally have beaten you. He sounds like a jealous, insecure baby. Let him survive on his own. The fact that you tried to help makes you a better person. Don't become a scumbag like him. You are MUCH more than that because you care. People like him always get what's coming to them. I do not say this lightly. My brother committed suicide and I will spend the rest of my life wishing life could be different, but in your case, you have done more than enough.
2006-11-26 07:55:18 · answer #5 · answered by Pixxxie 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Tough love is not just for parents. Give him space if he wants it or not. He needs some time on his own to figure out that he is being a scum bag. Helping him out (giving him a job, money, a friendly ear) could hurt him in the long run. Tell him that until he can regain your trust and prove to you that he has changed his lifestyle, you can't have anything to do with him. Don't sink to his level by attacking him. Cutting off contact is not easy, but it will give you the space you need to distance yourself and it will give him more space to find himself. Good luck!
2006-11-26 07:57:28 · answer #6 · answered by Amy d 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Stop take stock and realise that you can only do so much for him. You have helped and supported him you cannot do much more. Don't lower yourself to his awful level by going out to hurt him. Feel sorry for him forgive him this is so hard I know but he will have to account for all he has done wrong at the end of life. Be strong don't give in to terrible deeds.
2006-11-26 07:56:19 · answer #7 · answered by spbinka 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He sounds just the kind of chap to lead the British National Party. Get him recruited at once!
They'll need a new leader when, hopefully, the present one says just too much one day and is locked up for a few years.
2006-11-26 07:55:59 · answer #8 · answered by efes_haze 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hurting your brother will only cause you more trouble, no matter how much you want too. You will only bring yourself down to his level.
Walk away, knowing you did the right thing by giving him a chance.
I am sure your business associates see through his meanness.
2006-11-26 08:06:54 · answer #9 · answered by reddemonwi55 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is more than one way to skin a cat as the saying goes!!! Chip away at him from afar in way that he doesn't know that it's you. Report him to the tax man inland revenue, if he is claiming benefit tell em his claiming and working, even if he's not, anything to make his life as difficult as possible!
2006-11-26 07:53:53 · answer #10 · answered by untanuta 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
meet him somewhere and tell him how you feel and calmly tell him that its time to take responsibility for his own actions and then just walk away let him stand on his own feet he might Even thank you for it one day the ball will be in his court
2006-11-27 09:07:33 · answer #11 · answered by crazy chick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋