Growing up I was forced to be friends with my mom's friends son.He was a pain in the butt and tormented me terribly.
Fast forward to our mid-20's. We are both now divorced. His more recent than mine, and we have not seen each other in 5 years due to living on opposite sides of the country.
His mom gave him my # so he could call if he needed to talk to someone who understands what he is going through, which was fine.
I cheered him up, wished him the best and hung up.
He called last night and flipped out when I was at a bar with friends- his mom called me this morning and told me he thinks our ONE conversation meant we were dating.
( the only thing I said was next time he was in town to give me a call and we would grab a drink).
I need to let him down nicely cause he is a bit "psycho" at this point- What gives???
2006-11-26 07:18:36 · 12 answers · asked by Rae 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Best to nip this one in the bud immediately. Simply act naturally and if he "flips out", express surprise at his reaction and say "It's not as if I were your girlfriend, or ever likely to be, after all. We're not really even friends, are we? Just acquaintances." That might be tough and it may shock him but he really needs to know the truth. I am not suggesting that you should say all this in a nasty tone, just calm, polite and neutral. Really, you don't want a friendship with this man - his mother is a friend of your mother and neither he nor his mother has a right to expect anything of you. If you are worried about doing the bud-nipping yourself, call his mother and express your concern to her. Perhaps she can speak to him and remind him that he is not in a relationship with you and moreover is not going to be.
2006-11-26 07:23:33 · answer #1 · answered by Specsy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First be grateful he doesn't live in close by.
Gently might not work. I'd be firm and brief. "One call and a future invitation for a drink does not make us a couple of any kind." I'd also seriously recommend he get counseling since he obviously have delusions of possession. And I'd report all this to his mum so that she's fully aware of his problem.
Good luck!!
2006-11-26 15:26:40 · answer #2 · answered by Solunas 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth trough your mum. Tell her ur dating someone and you don't have time for this guy right now. Then tell her to get the hell out of your life.
2006-11-26 15:23:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch! You're right - you need to let the "psycho" down REALLY lightly. Oh, and in a crowded place.
2006-11-26 15:23:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor guy.....
Just (OVER THE PHONE OR EMAIL!)
say something like....um....
"You are such a fun FRIEND" emphasize friend.
heck, I dunno!
Or just stop all contact, and avoid him. Don't answer to his phonecalls. Maybe somehow refer a single friend too him?
God Luck!! ;-)
2006-11-26 15:25:52 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Charming's Princess♥ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like a good guy to avoid..
Tell him you just got engaged to be married
and you can't talk to him any more...
2006-11-26 15:21:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him what you told us (minus the pain in the butt and phyco part unless needbe)
2006-11-26 15:23:14 · answer #7 · answered by shortsagitarius 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him how u could tell anyone something like dat. and if that doen't work just give it to him hard!(but jentle @ tha same time)
2006-11-26 15:23:58 · answer #8 · answered by cpewitte27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well talk to him and let him know you aren't dating, and if need be change your number and lose all contact with him again
2006-11-26 15:26:04 · answer #9 · answered by goodlookin.mama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes you just have to be mean.......however, since its your moms friends son you might just have to let your mom handle this....since she pushed you together and probably gave your number out....hope it helps
2006-11-26 15:22:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋