Stay at home mums - is it all you thought it would be?

Question

Do you feel appreciated?

Do you miss your life pre baby?

Or are you loving every day?

Answer 1

hi there i became a stay at home mum 2 yrs ago and i do love everyday with my little boy i wouldnt change it for the world HOWEVER sometimes i dont feel appretiated not by him but his dad he thinks all i do is a bit of housework and sit on my **** for the rest of the day. sometimes i do miss my life b4 just being able to get up and go but like i said i wouldnt change a thing. thank you that was a good question x

Answer 2

My kids are 12 and 6 and i have just become a stay at home mum due to my boy being very ill .. i always worked full time and the most time i had off was three months of maternity leave ..not once do i miss my pre baby life as my children have enriched my life .I saw my girl in a school play for the first time and it was fantastic dont get me wrong i dont feel apprechiated just a glorified servant to my kids but being a stay at home mum is my job in life i cn teach my kids and mould them and give them the care no chidminder can i love it and will not be returning back to work for a very long time i dont intend missing out on them growing up any more than what i have already

Answer 3

Being a stay at home mom is not at all what I imagined. I don't feel appreciated, and I am finally adjusting to not having the freedom I had before the baby was born. I do love staying at home with my son and teaching and caring for him, but it is so much more work than I thought it would be. I have a strong-willed child and dealing with him every day takes a lot of strength. I often feel that no one else understands what I am going through. Sometimes I think it would be so much easier to go to work every day than stay at home and take care of a toddler every day. I make an effort to get out the house and go places and visit people and find a babysitter once in a while so I can have a break. I always wanted to be a stay-at-home mom because that was what my mother did. I'm glad that I only have one child instead of three like she did. It would be so overwhelming for me.

Answer 4

I'm 53' was a stay at home mum from the age of 22 to the age of 31; nine years at home - had four children in that time. The youngest was 2 when I went back to work.
I missed my job much more than I thought I would. I didn't find it fulfilling to be at home with four very young children.
I missed the money too - never got used to the fact that I had to rely on my husband for money.
It was the undoing of my marraige too - he didn't like me working; found every reason to criticise, and eventually we separated.
I met some one else a few years later, went on to have a fifth child. He has grown up with the idea that mums work.
I think I am a happier person for earning my own income.

Answer 5

It is absolutely wonderful, and I feel fully appreciated by my husband and my child! He knew what a sacrifice it was for me to make. I have two degrees, and had a career as a teacher before my first child was born. I hadn't really, fully planned to stay home for years and years, thought I would go back to teaching. I did do some substitute teaching once in a while, but that was too much of a hassle once we moved to a bigger city.
I totally don't miss our life pre-baby. We had two years married together, and that was long enough to get to know each other well, even though we had known one another for three, and dated for two of those.
I think my husband was the most supportive when, usually other moms would think of going back to work once their kids started school, he said now was a really important time for me to be at home. To send him off in the morning, and be the one to be there when he came home from school, not just a sitter. And then, once our son hit pre-teen, my husband once again said how very important it was again for me to be there for our son. And he ws right.
I love every day!

Answer 6

You know what I am not a stay at home mom, but my best friend is. At first she said it was great staying at home with a new baby and everything her husband was great to her and the baby. Her husband said you don't need to get a job. Everything was great. I kinda envied her. Now it is not that great the baby is almost two years of age. Her husbad don't give her money for anything, not even for medication or pads for when she is on her period it is kinda of sad, she has to get money from her family. He also throughs it back in her face that she don't pay for none of the bills or anything else. He wont even watch his own kid. He treats her like crap when the house is not picked up. It is kinda of sad like he has turned into a control freak or something. She does not regret her child. She regrets of not going back to work right away after having the baby. She feels that if she helped out with the bills and everything her husband might show some respect. Well hopes this helps you after having a baby your whole life changes hope you are ready for all that.

Answer 7

Well for me my job before I had kids was horrible, working 10 hour days measuring ingredients in a factory so looking after my child is heaven after that! I really couldnt imagine getting pregnant, having a baby that i love so much and then leaving him/hewr everyday to go off to work. To me that isnt what being a mother is about. But I guess some people, ie single aprents havent got much of a choice.
When my kids start primary school I will start work again, that leaves me 5 years to do a home college course or something so I can get a better job. I'd like to be a carer.

Answer 8

No, it isn't what I thought it would be. I imagined I would have plenty of time to just bake cookies or make my husband homemade lunches to bring to work--to go out everyday with a clean home like I used to. It's not!

I'm an organization/neat freak. I still have a clean house but it takes more then it used to. My day is relaxed but sometimes days are harder to get through then others--as with any other "job." I do everything I feel I'm "supposed" to--but it takes a lot more effort to get there then before. I hope that made sense.

No, I don't feel appreciated. I actually feel scrutinized for everything I do.

No, I love my life every day---while it takes a toll it's great. I would never want anything other then to stay at home with my kids.

Answer 9

It's a lot MORE than I thougth it would be! More work, more stress, more fun, more happiness... etc...

Do I feel appreciated: Well, yes. I feel appreciated by my son because I look at his little face and his big smile and know that he loves me more than the moon. I feel appreciated by my husband because he's told me numerous times that he knows I have a harder job than he does, even though he's out earning the money. And I feel appreciated by my parents and my husband's parents because they watch us and have told us that they think we're doing a great job. ON THE OTHER HAND - sometimes when I've had a very long day with my son, he's thrown temper tantrums all day, has been willful and hard to get along with and has been bothering the dog and throwing food during meals, and my husband comes home from work, exhausted, and goes upstairs to nap the rest of the afternoon away - I feel very UN-appreciated and just want to run away from home - so it's a double edged sword! :)

Do I miss my pre-baby life: No, not one minute of it. I love being a mom and I love having him in my life. I miss manicures and pedicures, but pretty much everything I used to do I still make time to do. I see my friends, I work out, my husband and I go out on dates. We get babysitters and we make time for ourselves, you owe it to yourself as a parent to do those things!!

Answer 10

I did it for 15 months and then went back to work, I love my children but it just wasn't for me, my husband now stays at home with tem.

i just felt totally undervalued and invisible in a way, evryone I knew was at work during the day and I started getting sick of only discussing childrens issues with other Mum's,

This way I get the best of both worlds although I do feel guilty a lot of the time, but I know the grass is always greener and all that !!