I am 21 years old. I have a full time job and PT college.I been arranger marriage twice before. it didn't work out.. my mom was trying to get me married again. Refused to do that for the third time. for that time my parent are giving me hard time. I cant go out anymore. they don't trust me. they just want me to do what ever they want. I don't know what to do. I love them . but . I want to leave my life the way I want it. I know this guy hes 23 and I really like him. hes really respectful and sweet. he really want to go further with me. I do too. but my parent wouldn't agree because hes from a different country.the apartment where my parent leave its under my name I pay have of it. in fact I pay have of everything. I can afford to leave by my self. but i just don't wanna leave them because I know they need me. but i just want to stop it, because I cant take it anymore>??!!
2006-11-26 07:11:28 · 8 answers · asked by I_belong_to_me 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have no idea about your culture - but from a financial stand point they don't have any control over you - it sounds like your parents have only the control over you that you are giving them. I think you need to re-write the rules with them. I don't know what a guy from a different country has to do with things - I believe you have more going on here with culture then you are telling us here. I would suggest you tell your parents that unless they are paying the full frieght on things they can only suggest - but most accept that you make your own decisions. Moving out might be necessary - its too bad they aren't thinking of you happiness as the most important thing here.
2006-11-26 07:16:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your a grown woman I understand your parents mean alot to you but you have to do what's best for you. You can't live your parents life for them forever, kids are meant to be raised and then go out into the world with the values their parents taught them. As far as being married twice, your only 21 slow down and enjoy life, there will be plenty of time for that later.
2006-11-26 15:21:19 · answer #2 · answered by colormespoiled 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them the truth
first of all if u r payin 4 the rent and everything else they shouldnt b bossin u around
they can give u their opinions on things and some advise but that is all they can do
also, bring this guy to the house and have ur parents meet them and if they dont approve then tell them it is your life and u wanna live it the way u want not under my parents eye
just say all i need at this age is advise not to b under ur eye all the time
i am 21 and can live my life the way i wanna live my life
2006-11-26 15:15:59 · answer #3 · answered by Caitlin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um, ur 21. hate 2 say it but leave the nest, ur parents sound a little overprocetive and if u really like this dude who cares what ur parents think, they love u and should love whoever u bring home
2006-11-26 15:16:06 · answer #4 · answered by shortsagitarius 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should talk about that guy to your parents.you never know..their reaction may surprise you. if they don't agree and you really love this guy there's no other way but live by yourself and still give them some money for the rent if they need financial support. good luck honey
2006-11-26 15:24:49 · answer #5 · answered by pany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow that sounds serious! well, the first thing I would do nis talk to my parents, cause I had the ame exact problem. my parents think that just having a friend that is a boy would make them think that I am going to date him. and I talked to them and they changed their mind, and they said that they liked me talking to them. maybe you should talk to your parents, and say hey, i Love this guy, and everything, and I don't think it is fair that you are choosing my decisions. could you think this over.
2006-11-26 15:17:40 · answer #6 · answered by sally b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well ditch the parents, even though you love them, its time they are oout of this particular picture. go with your gut and if you have feelings for this man then dont let his nationality or your parents stand in the way
2006-11-26 15:14:37 · answer #7 · answered by Chelsea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot continue to live with your parents.
You will have to ask them to leave: there is no other way.
2006-11-26 15:14:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋