are we to the end?

Question

me and my b/f have been dating for almost 4 months but all we do latley is fight about everything. he is always putting me down and telling me how his ex g/f were working all the time and how they looked sexy clothes and things i have two kids from a past realtionship and he gets pissed when i talk about them. but i let him talk about his all the time and now hes treating me like a piece of ****. i love him to death but i want to see what everyone thinks is he online cheating? he online alot when iam not upstairs or not in the room. and hes has to be right and iam wrong what is so wrong with us? please help soon i feel like iam losing my mind one more thing he thinks i can get a job with out a high school diploma or even a ged and only 7 years expernice in child care.

please help sooooooon.

Answer 1

Sad to say, it's over.

All the signs are there. You need to get away from this one and take a little break, just for yourself. You don't need to be called names and treated like a 'second class person'. You don't need to play the games with him and take his abuse. If he loves you, then why is he always bringing up his ex? You need to think of yourself and don't listen to anything he says. He's an a$$hole-pure & simple.

Love is truly blind. Don't confuse love for comfort. You can do better and deserve better than him!

Answer 2

You need to establish boundaries, and if he does not respect them, then it is time to move on without him.


Lay it down like this;

I do not like nor should I have to put up with your insults.
It is me and you, and I am not your ex-gf.
To accept you, he will have to accept your kids as well.. The whole package or it will not work...

Do not sacrifice your emotional health, nor put your children in a position that will foster an unhealthy enviroment with this guy...

Do oyu want your children to be around when this guy is walking all over you like it sounds like he is doing already?

If he looks at you like a piece of meat or some sex machine, what about the other parts of yourself?

You might be better off without him, but if you are determined to try to make it work, you need to draw a line and establish boundaries and state them, and stick by them. If he does not respect even that, he is not worth it.

There are plenty of other guys out there.

Answer 3

It sounds like you need to be having this conversation with him and asking him these questions. I doubt he will see it at an end if you talking to him in a calm and loving manner - he is probably wondering about these things too - but instead of worrying about them - take some action. He may feel like you aren't treating him as well either - as shocking as that might sound to you - the key is communicate to each other - do that - if you realize its not working out - then maybe its not meant to go any farther between the two you - but at least you will have solid closure.

Good Luck!!!

Answer 4

Look.... Things will work themselves out if they were meant to happen if they weren't they weren't.. But you can attempt to make things better if you want.... The reason he could possibly be cheating is because of all the arguing.. My boyfriend and I were arguing all the time for about a month... then he told me he was interested in someone else and it broke us up.. now we are more in love than before after we worked on things and he agreed to never see her again.... Why did i do this? accept him back after he was interested in someone else? because he was honest and because I love him. You have two choices.. you can end things now.. that way he won't criticize and you won't be hurt later down the road.... cry eat some ben and jerries read some cosmos and move on to someone who will treat you better.. Or you can fix things... sit him down and ask him what has been wrong with you guys latley..Tell him you want to fix things. don't accuse him of anything. say you really love him and all you want to do is stop fighting and renew your relationship. Things can get better if you and him both want them too.. Ask him if he is interested in someone else. If he isn't and wants to fix things you need to trust him even if you still think he's cheating. Relationships are based off of trust, love, and commitment. He will have to be willing to work on it as hard on it as you !!! So set him down and ask if he will work on it with you.. Relationships are tricky! if things don't work out then maybe it wasn't meant to be! Good luck!!!

Answer 5

He doesn't seem to have respect for you. Get your GED. You can't put you or your children in this abusive relationship. There are places that help women in your situation. Seek them out. He knows your resources are limited so that gives him the freedom to abuse you and feel confident you'll put up with it because you need him. Stop needing him. No man that cares for you would throw someone else up to you.He thinks you are not pulling your weight financially. Take your dignity and go. Don't wait for him to throw you out and further humiliate you. If you don't know Jesus ,introduced yourself. He knows you and He wants better for you.

Answer 6

Your relationship is over, break up with this guy.

You can't love a person who disrespects you, who puts you down, and fails to acknowledge your children.

You should go back to school and make your life better then it'll be time to look for a boyfriend.

Answer 7

Yes, it sounds as tho you're at the end. If you're unable to communicate, then it's over. You cant possibly love him, if you cant even talk about your own children with him. He doesnt respect you. And w/o respect e/thing else is impossible.

Answer 8

all relationships go threw this kind of stage around this time of month of dating but once it passes you will have a stronger relationship. alot of people dont make it threw but me and my boyfriend did know everything is perfect. we are always laughing and haveing an amazing time.

Answer 9

I am sorry. but it sounds like it is time to move on and make a life for yourself, and find a better man

Answer 10

that isn't love. especially if he speaks to u like that. u think that u love him. Ask this question how can u love someone that treat u like S***? think about ur kids