I am in my mid-20's, a professional woman and a full-time college student in the evening finishing my degree in business.
I am in school 3 nites a week, for 4 hours with the same group of people. We have all became very close and hang out outside of class often, email, text, etc.
One guy is in his mid 30's married with 3 children- he and I have the same personalities and have a ball together in and out of class. While we are not attracted to each other- and nothing has ever (or will happen physically) we always hug good nite, blow kisses to each other in the commons area.
A few nites ago a huge group went out for a drink after finals and he gave me hug goodbye in front of everyone and said"Love ya sweetie"... without hesitiation I said it back and winked.
A few minutes afterward a guy friend told me he thought that was inappropriate, and that out friendship could be considered an affair.
I don't think so- what about u?
2006-11-26 07:00:27 · 8 answers · asked by Rae 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That dude is just jealous. You might be guilty of flirting a little, but as long as you two are not confiding in eachother or leading eachother on, don't worry about it.
It is not an affair unless you have a sexual or emotionally deep relationship, that you are depriving your spouse from.
2006-11-26 07:09:23 · answer #1 · answered by tightlies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know his wife, and does she hang out with you, too? Is she OK with the hugs and kisses?
If she's never a part of things between the two of you, then, yeah. Sounds very, very much like an emotional affair.
It's perfectly fine and healthy for married people to have friends of the opposite sex, but when they start hiding those friends from their spouses, they're wandering into very dangerous territory.
2006-11-26 15:45:29 · answer #2 · answered by some chick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is anything wrong with this situation because I have guy friends that are in relationships, and everytime we talk whether in person or on the phone, we end our coversations with an "I love you". As long as you and the guy know whats up, then thats all that matters
2006-11-26 15:07:30 · answer #3 · answered by felita2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with your friend.
BUT....................put yourself in the situation of being at home nights with the kids while your future hubby is going to classes and did and continued to do with this married man that you did?
I really think if that day ever happens to you, you, being the wife wouldn't have liked it one bit.
It's just another example of younger girls not giving a sh*t about the wife at home. That doesn't make you professional dear.
2006-11-26 15:06:43 · answer #4 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a little too much for just a friendship, if you want to do that do it with a laughter after to show people that you guys are not serious. but maybe you are serious ask him or observe his feelings towards you.
2006-11-26 15:05:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
AS long as you just friends. The heck with what others think. Some people can't just be friends.
2006-11-26 15:05:03 · answer #6 · answered by rhofun 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya, this isnt right.. if he's married and if his wife is not there. If she knows you guys are like this and it doesn't bother her, then it's ok.. but if he's not married, then its all fine. But if hes married, no not good.., definetely affair like
2006-11-26 15:04:49 · answer #7 · answered by wolfgirl1987 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it does sound very strange!!! You are wrong, he is attracted to ya!!
2006-11-26 15:03:55 · answer #8 · answered by Andrew P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋