right my girlfriend wants to move in with me she is 17 and i am 18 we are both ready for this and i have everything ready for us a house i have a steady job and i go to college i bring in about 800 a month but she is scared to talk to her parents and ask them i wont be tehre because she lives in england and i live in scotland i is hard she is scared if they say no or disown her she is stil going to come but she doesnt want to lose her family they are not very nice to her they treat her very bad and treat her wrong does anyone have any sugestions on how to help please?
2006-11-26 06:53:54 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I could give you endless advice but there is only one GIVE IT TIME. You sound very considerate and seem to have got it all together which is lovely, but your lady is NOT READY yet to commit to such a big move. Good luck. Remember time!!!! I am Scottish and I know how impatient we are.
2006-11-26 06:57:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
most teenagers thing their parents are the most horrible humans in the world, because they wont give them everything they want that instant. Wait a while. you don't have NEAR enough to support a family yet, you have no idea how much it costs. Be on your own first then when she is older talk to her parents, with you there!! Let them see you are responsible. Both of you are too young to be in a permanent relationship. It will mean so much more if you wait. It will also prove to her parents that you are responsible and not jumping into something too fast.
2006-11-26 07:00:37 · answer #2 · answered by Jim V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if they treat her wrong, and your willing to give her a better life, I say rescue her. Get her away from them. If they really love her they will see in the future how happy you make her and they will accept it, if they are absolute monsters then she doesn't need their acceptance or approval, she just needs to get the hell away from all of them. Explain to her that she cannot "make them" love her, respect her or even except the situation, however I do not know the Laws in your country but I am from America, Michigan, to be exact and at 17 you can move out and be on your own legally. Convince her!!! you must love her or you wouldn't be asking for help. GOOD LUCK .
2006-11-26 07:13:49 · answer #3 · answered by Missy S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should make a point of being there with her when she talks to her family, reassure them she will be OK. Its the "adult" and "responsible" thing to do.
She should not have to do this alone, if you really care for her and want you both to be happy then you need to do this together. If youa re planning on having a life together then start now. Get some days off, go down to hers and both sort it out with her family. If things go bad then she has you there to comfort her in person and keep her safe.
Don't make/let her do this on her own.
2006-11-26 07:01:41 · answer #4 · answered by janey190369 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not sure what the law is in that country, but if she is of age, then she can move out. If her parents disown her, then thats their problem. If she's they are treating her like crap already, then they already disowned her, as far as im concerned. Plan a date to move, then move out on that day. If she is of age, her parents can't do anything about it. If she isn't of just wait until she is 18 or she is of age becouse Im not sure what the law is in that country, then move out. Save up money in the mean time. Good luck to you both.
2006-11-26 07:00:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
True adults would not have to go through with this dialogue you just had. If you were truly ready and mature enough for this, you wouldn't be asking. And 800 a month is NOTHING to live on. Ouch! Oh! And if you are going to live together, why not get married first?
2006-11-26 06:57:18 · answer #6 · answered by isingmore 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
17 and 18 are to young. You should finish school, establish yourself, and then think about a permanent relationship. If you tie yourself down now, you will always resent it. the girl is young, let her live with her parents, I believe they want the best for her. Living with each other now, and the eventuallity of kids, will take away your youth, and will cause much resentment. If it was meant to be, it will be. Let time tell
2006-11-26 07:00:27 · answer #7 · answered by tony g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in this very situation. My girlfriend moved in after a series of rows with her parents. When they realised her mind was made up, and having met me, they relented. No parents in this day and age would disown their child in a situation such as yours. Several years on married and with 2 kids, we are happy. So are our parents. Best of Luck.
2006-11-26 07:44:59 · answer #8 · answered by breedgemh_101 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that you should find a way to set up a video teleconference with her and her parents so that she does not have to face this all alone. It is only fair.
2006-11-26 06:57:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i think you should ask the parents for her and if they say no to you then it will not be hard on your girlfriend.
2006-11-26 06:58:11 · answer #10 · answered by Brandi C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋