Almost a week ago my boyfriend broke up with me (over the phone!!!) We'd been dating for almost 9 months (on wednesday it would have been 9 months) He was my first in everything i mean literally my first actual boyfriend, my first kiss, my first love, and my first time. He told me i changed and well to be honest i don't really care for what the reason was all i want to know is if i should call him and ask him if there will ever be a chance for us again. Should i or should i not?
* oh by the way at school he's laughing playing soccer with his friends and just having a great time* Does that mean that he is really willling to move on just like that?
2006-11-26 06:47:05 · 12 answers · asked by lily 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You absolutely should not call him. He has moved on, and you need to find a way to do the same. It is crappy the way he did you. But not surprising. Once boys get what they want, they normally move on. Boys like the thrill of the hunt and once that is gone....so is she. My advice to you is to talk to your school counselor for a bit and get your self esteem back. Then don't make the same mistake again. Love is a bugger...no doubt about it. There is a really great guy for you out there. Unfortunately you have already given a very special part of yourself, and that may come back to bite you in the butt. I hope not, but experience and being a counselor has shown me chances are pretty good that it will. He moved on because he was ready to. I am sorry for your loss. It is time to try to move forward. Please do not make a fool of yourself and call him. If he wanted to talk to you he would have called you, and at that time you should have hung up on him. Don't let him play you ever again. Good luck dear. Nana
2006-11-26 06:54:07 · answer #1 · answered by nanawnuts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it hurts, but don't call him and ask him to take you back. If he did the breaking up and realizes he wants you back, he'll come to you. If he was cowardly enough to break up with you over the phone, he's probably not mature enough for a good relationship anyway. It's best to cry about him for a while, miss him, and then do your best to move on with the help of the people who matter most to you. While you're still in high school, don't expect relationships to last any longer than a few months anyway. Remember the good things about your time together and keep those. You have your whole life ahead of you to be with more guys who will treat you better than he does.
2006-11-26 14:57:51 · answer #2 · answered by somamos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok! I'm not gonna lie to Ya!! Well i think that ur boyfriend has gotten over u! I mean he acts like he's having fun!,and come on i bet if u go out wit another guy he will be so jealous, and i bet he will ask u out! So it's nothing to worry about! Oh yeah! Please don't call him! Cause u will sound desperate! Talk to him in school tell him that u r missing him, and that u r moving on, and that u still wanna be friends with him! but don't call him cause u'll sound desperate! I hope all works out!!
2006-11-26 14:54:27 · answer #3 · answered by pimp132 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really think that he is important to you then yes, call him. If you just like the fact that you have a boyfriend and don't really love him then you are just waisting your time. But if you really do care about him then call him and try to makes things work, if he doesn't want to make things work, then he is just a jerk and move on. If you make and effort to try to make it work again and he doesn't then it will just be too much work for you. He also might just need some time, so if he says he needs time, give him some time.
2006-11-26 14:51:50 · answer #4 · answered by Nice girls finish last 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't call him and I wouldn't reccomend you too either. He doesn't treat you with respect. You are going to need to start doing that, respecting yourself. If a friend told you her bf treated her that way I am sure you would want to scratch his eyes out. Have the same for yourself.
2006-11-26 14:54:10 · answer #5 · answered by yogangel7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could be a show around his friends. a break up over the phone is childish. since you lost the "V" to him, you will be more interested in him. i would just move on. start dating other people, but don't spread your legs unless you think it is serious.
2006-11-26 14:51:43 · answer #6 · answered by asslpman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
so i know its probly really hard right now but my suggestion is don't call him..
he probly hasnt moved on that fast but hes trying to make it look like that in front of his friends...
also if you call and ask if you have another chance, it'll make you look somewhat desperate...
just wait it out...and in the mean time have fun being single...if he really likes you he'll come bak to you
2006-11-26 14:51:17 · answer #7 · answered by punky_chic114 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You deserve to know why he broke up with you, but if he doesn't want to be with you, there's nothing you can do about it. It'll hurt, but you'll get over it.
So yeah, don't call him.
2006-11-26 14:54:23 · answer #8 · answered by polar_kodiak 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call him, if he doesnt pick up, dont call again, just once and thats it. if he doesnt call back, leave it at that. im sure u still have feelings for him, and no matter what, he'll have feelings for you. if he moves on, try moving on too.
2006-11-26 14:50:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't call him! Even though you want to - don't! That feeling will pass in time.
Keep your dignity - don't become "clingy and needy".
2006-11-26 14:50:40 · answer #10 · answered by brenny_boo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋