I've been dating my bf for 10 months. i absolutely LOVE him. We fight sometimes, but nothing abnormal. We're pretty much a perfect couple. But I can't seem to help flirting with my boy friends when my bf isn't there, not majorly, but i realize i'm doing it. Sometimes when we're in the mall i try to avoid holding my bf's hand when cute guys walk by so they think I'm single. I don't understand WHY I do this to him. i don't want to date those boys, i just want them to think i'm hot. And because of this, I always get jealous of my bf's girl friends because I figure he's doing the same things when I'm positive he's not. We get into fights about my jealousy all the time. He doesn't know that this is why I'm so jealous. And I can't tell him without him thinking I'm some kind of a slut. I REALLY want to break this disguisting habit of mine. I love him so much and I want to be with him forever. What should I do??
2006-11-26 06:46:11 · 11 answers · asked by Erin DC 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
youve been with your boyfriend for a long time so it sounds like youre trying to get attention from other guys just to kind of prove to yourself that you still have it ad that you CAN get other guys, even though u dont want to. its normal as long as youre not doing anything that would hurt him. even if your boyfried is flirting with other girls like you are, if u think what youre doing is harmless then he probably does too and it most likely is.
2006-11-26 06:51:04 · answer #1 · answered by b2k4ever08 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You suffer from classic lack of self esteem.You constantly are seeking the approval of males.
you are subconsciously asking yourself "Am I attractive?Am I wanted?"
The flirting gets the heart and blood racing,in short its a kinda "high".You don't want or mean to do it but its too good a temptation.
Unless you find a guy that's willing to put up with this,you're relationships are destined to failure.
Truth be told the flirtation is a symptom of a much deeper problem.
I'm going to go way out on a limb here but any licensed psychologist would want to know what kind of relationship you had with your father growing up.My guess would be little or none.
If like you said ,you REALLY want to stop the flirtation,you need to sit down with a therapist
and get to the causal root of the symptomatic flirtation.Good luck to you.
2006-11-26 15:06:12 · answer #2 · answered by Mark K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, maybe u arent as devoted to him as u thought
but if u r, then really, rather than trying to seem single, in public, kiss or hold hands and seem like their is no cute guys around. he should the only cute one to u if u really like him
2006-11-26 14:48:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just need to be aware of your actions and control them. Of, just avoid all other guys. Or just flirt like crazy, and just tell him that it does not mean anything.
2006-11-26 14:49:07 · answer #4 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont trust him because you dont trust yourself.
You need to find another way to feel good about yourself besides flirting. You already know your hot.
2006-11-26 14:54:35 · answer #5 · answered by muddymudflower 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are one twisted sister! Obviously, you don't care enough about him to stop your destructive ways. Maybe it will take losing him to teach you a lesson.
2006-11-26 14:50:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
pretent that all the boys are family members like uncle, brother or dad
2006-11-26 14:48:11 · answer #7 · answered by richard w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
check my 360
2006-11-26 14:48:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just stop
when you catch yourself flirting STOP
and also if you can't apperciate your relationship maybe you should be single
u a whore.
2006-11-26 14:48:48 · answer #9 · answered by ASHLI B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to be strong to succeed!!!
2006-11-26 14:59:27 · answer #10 · answered by PhiloPhobic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋