My boyfriend and I have been going out for almost a year and I love him with all my heart and he feels the same... but... the other day I asked myself, am I prepared to ask him to marry me? (I'm all about equality and if I want to marry him I should be able to ask, right?) This question only led to tense muscles and a headache that lasted for almost a week. I can picture myself spending the rest of my life with him but I don't think I could ask him (or say "yes" if I was asked). I feel like a year worth of relationship is too soon to come to a decision as to whether or not we'll be together for the rest of our lives. We have friends who have been together for shorter periods of time (half the amount) and they're getting married. Is it weird that I can say I want to be with him forever but I can't make it official by asking him to marry me? Will I ever be ready for him to be my husband?
2006-11-26 06:42:07 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your not ready. I think if you were, you wouldn't have to question yourself and you would just do it. There is no rush. You have plenty of time to get to know one another. Don't jump just because all of your friends are. Don't compare yourself or your relationship to them because you are unique. When you are ready it won't stress you out and you will have no worries. It will happen when the time is right. God Bless and take your time and enjoy what you have now!
2006-11-26 06:46:16 · answer #1 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are as normal as apple pie. It's a big old step, honey. If you didn't feel this way is when you should worry. Why not just chill and let him ask you. Why rush it? He hasn't asked and it really isn't your job to do so. Equality Schmequality! Men like to be the ones to make that decision. It's about all they have you know. We have the wedding and OUR day. All he gets is the way he proposed. Good luck. Nana
2006-11-26 14:48:32 · answer #2 · answered by nanawnuts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you were ready you wouldn't be questioning it .
don't think just because your friends haven't dated as long means you got to jump . hold it off and ill bet you to will be happier while your friends are getting sick of married life . every relationship is diffrent.wait another year and see what happens to those friends .then think about it again . if youse are truley in love , neither one of youse is going anywhere. good luck
2006-11-26 14:58:48 · answer #3 · answered by porcelain65711 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably a little too soon, in my opinion. I'd date him another year, and then if you still feel the same, ask him. And make it a fairly long engagement, too. Give yourself another year to plan the wedding, get your lives organized. etc.
2006-11-26 14:46:23 · answer #4 · answered by Stretchy McSlapNuts 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should try and wait because u never know what might happen in time. You might be ready to marry him in time.
2006-11-26 14:47:40 · answer #5 · answered by catfeet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋