gambling and anger problem?

Question

how do you get a friend to get help from anger management.

Answer 1

wow that's a catch 22, you try and talk to them and they get pissed, try a letter

Answer 2

Okay, does your friend have issues ONLY when gambling or does he have this issues all the time or does he have anger AND gambling issues.

If your friend only has these problems when he gambles, get him to stop gambling, he might just be a bad loser (yes, they do exist and the problem is linked to self-image or a preseved lack of masculinity). Not every gambler suffers from "obsessive gambling disorder", but if he gets edgy when he hasn't played in awhile, starts to gamble away most of what he makes when he does and begins to get into debt, THEN you contact a councilor.

If he has this issue all the time, he needs anger management. Most people don't like being helped, especially when they are told they have problems and need to be fixed. Again, it is linked to a self image/self worth thing. If he is the violent type, don't confront him alone and be prepared to admite some of your own flaws in an attempt to lighten the blow. In the end, unless he is a danger to himself and others, there is no way you can force him to go. If he is a danger, there are ways (legal ways, mind you) of making him go but that will put a strain on your friendship. It's not an easy road to walk down.

If he has both, might I suggest investing in a tranquizer dart gun, strong rope and a phone with the speed-dial set to 911? Sorry, I know this isn't funny, but IF (big if) he is an obsessive gambler AND has anger management problems then there is no easy way to bring this subject up because you are not pointing out one problem, you are pointing out TWO. Just don't do it alone, be firm yet compassionate and don't assume the role of doctor. If you start pointing out problems and quoting leaflets, you will quickly become the enemy, as most people who are being told their problems see the teller as the enemy or someone who has it out for them. You are a friend who wants to help, not a doctor or judge passing judement, so just be cool, listen, offer advice, but back down graciously when your points have been made and/or countered. Getting him mad at you will not get him help and you might lose a friend. Good luck.

~~ Abaddon

Answer 3

Unique that stated gambling and anger in the same topic.

Perhaps the anger is a spinoff of the gambling and its losses and affects?

Check with Gambling Anonymous or local mental health center for information in this area.

Thanks for caring and do share this information with tons of encouragement to seek help!

Answer 4

He has to want to help himself.

Gambling, as with all other addictions, are manifestations of displaced anxiety.

Often, they own the person.

You cannot help someone who is owned by an addiction. They have to acknowledge, recognize, and accept it before they will even want to help themselves.

You cannot do this for them. You also cannot choose for them how often they breathe, or how often their heart beats.

You can, however only be there as a friend to them, sharing you time and company, when they choose healthier activities. for example, don't hang out with them while they gamble, but hang out at the gym with them. Soon they will realize that you will not be a part of their self-destructive activities. If they want to hang with you, they will have to be good to themselves.

Answer 5

Try to talk to them in a comfortable setting and tranquil time. If your friend drinks, try getting through to them when they are sober and not irritable in anyway. Start out by telling them you are concerned for their well being. Have some solutions put together to mention. Also, be very sympathetic for any possible reasons for your friend's behavior but emphasize your concern and desire to help.

Besides that, I'd give "Intervention" a call if all else fails with trying to get other loved ones involved.

Answer 6

both of you join an anger managment group together and fib by asking them to join with you so you do not have to do it alone and then your friend can get help and you can learn how to help your friend