The difference and meaning?What to do??Serious answers only pls....Read all pls?

Question

If ur close female friend tells you this:(after I told her how I felt)…..

1) "I can't imagine you not being in\a part of my life" MEANING???
2)"I don't deserve your feelings"? MEANING???

I then told her a few weeks later that I needed a break from her and she DISAGREED\WAS RUDE TOWARDS ME as a result---does it mean anything???

She said friends don’t take breaks and that I should get a grip---MEANING?

My reason was that she was behaving odd towards me and I thought it best we have some time apart.Especially for me to get over my feelings.

Have said I value our friendship and I mean that.

Advice?

Has not spoken to me since,told me to do "whatever"-MEANING? What she feeling\thinking?

p.s.she don't like talking about it. Has been in touch and told me to sort my head out+stop causing this “conflict”.

Answer 1

1) "I can't imagine you not being in\a part of my life" ------> she wants you but not in a commitment way just as a friend a shoulder to lean on.
2)"I don't deserve your feelings"? ------------> she is pretty confused abt her feelings,,,,in a way she adores you but still she doesnt wanna admit.

DISAGREED\WAS RUDE TOWARDS ME as a result---> she is absolutely confused,,,, i think u need to talk to her. Somehow i think she wants you but she doesnt want anything serious so she can be on the safer side. She cant take the fact that someone is leaving her as in a short break. Sincerely girls always want to be pampered and wanted. They cant take any gap in between.

Overall i think she is a bit childish. If you really want to continue the friendship, you need to be straight to her as in talk to her making ur point clear. Tell her not to confuse whatever she thinks about you because its gonna complicate things.
Maybe u did the right thing by having a gap in between to clear things up. Lets see wat is there after this. Good luck.

Answer 2

Not every woman thinks the same but here's my take on it -
1) She can't imagine you not being a part of her life means she wants to keep you on the sideline just in case she can not find someone better.
2) She doesn't deserve your feelings means she feels guilty for keeping you on the sideline when she knows she has no romantic interest.

Telling you to "get a grip" is a way to make you feel that you are overreacting by wanting a break. She is right about one thing - friends don't take breaks and she does not sound like a good friend. There are two way to manipulate another - one) you don't speak to them and then they start to feel bad for whatever they did or said even if they were in the right. - two) you say mean things to get them to stop talking about the subject they want to talk about.

I hate to say it but it sound like you value this friendship more than she does. Take your break and do not contact her. My prediction is that she will eventually contact you but not because she genuinely sees you as a good friend but because she wants to keep you on the side.

Answer 3

mmm, same thing happened to me where I told my best friend that I wanted a break but had a different reaction. My friend wouldn't accept the break and got really upset that I wanted that so we sat and talked about. Your friend on the other hand sounds like she's got issues with your friendship. Turning it around and being rude and telling you to get a grip sounds like she knows she's in the wrong but won't admit it. She sounds very two faced and not a friend at all. I think you should call it a day on this friendship. How was she behaving odd towars you?

Answer 4

Okay, I have to guess a bit here because I don't really have the whole scenerio, but it sounds like you two were friends and then you changed this into something moving towards a more serious relationship. Is sounds like she isn't really interested in moving it in that direction. And she was likely behaving odd because your behavior changed and she noticed it.
Why not decide, do you really want the relationship to try and advance and lose her altogether, or do you want to remain her friend and tell her you have sorted things out and will be her friend and not try and change things (and mean it.)
Hope I have this right. Good luck.

Answer 5

She is trying to let you down nicely, as she doesn't want to become involved with you as part of a relationship. Value her friendship only, and leave her alone. I am sorry, but I have read between the lines and I am a woman. Try to get over this. good luck.

Answer 6

She fancies the pants off you you fool, anyone can see that. She cares but not sure if to change this from a friendship to a relationship.

You opened up to her, she told you her feelings and then you turned your back on her, how confused are you trying to make her????

Conflict is....... you said you care, she said she cares then you say you need space, you narna!!!!- you will be lucky if you get a second chance at this.

Answer 7

there is some sort of attraction there but the signals are mixed is you or her who is confused about your feeling's for the other don't sweat on her say so just ask her out right at least the air will be clear to either proceed with the friendship/relationship good luck

Answer 8

rite i had this guy that liked me to and i told him all the things that girl told u, but we didn't tlk for about 3 weeks which i found i missed him after that and now we are tlking again..... but from the story it looks like she is not interested and the vaule ur friendship thing means she wants to be friends and thats bout it i hope that helps xxxx

Answer 9

Sounds like a lot of confusion to me. The communication between you two leaves a lot to be desired.

Move on and find someone you can really communicate with.

Answer 10

Some women are strange. That's not meaning to be sexist: most of them are great, but some women are strange. Try the 'look around for more suitable alternative' strategy.