I gave him $300 yesterday as an early Christmas present and he is back today for more. I am about to completely cut him off. He is draining me? No is is not handicap.
2006-11-26 06:22:37 · 17 answers · asked by taken2007 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
He does not go to school.
2006-11-26 06:26:44 · update #1
He WILL do this for many, many years, if you keep giving him money. This will alter his personality and create problems for him in the long run.
I am a big advocate of "tough love." My parents never gave me many luxuries, and because of it I have a strong work ethic and a pretty good sense of emotional maturity (I'd like to think so, anyway).
Spoiled people are troublesome people. Cutting him off will be very painful for both of you initially, but it will be worth it. But don't just cut him off. Tell him WHY you are cutting him off and what he needs to do for HIMSELF.
2006-11-26 06:39:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-29 19:35:13 · answer #2 · answered by rothberg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should stop giving him money. You gave him that money for a Christmas gift, not your fault he is so frivolous. He needs to know the value of a dollar and some responsibility. He will never do that if people keep giving him things he didn't work for. He is 22, time to grow up. Good luck! :)
2006-11-26 06:27:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO no more money for him. he needs to learn how to be reponsible with the money if he spent 300 dollars in that short amount of time he is doing something other than eating. Maybe you should cut off the money supply for about a week or 2 and then see how he reacts.
2006-11-26 06:40:27 · answer #4 · answered by ASHLI B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your son have a job and his own place? If not, kick his lazy behind out and make him grow up.
Why are you giving him money? What's the purpose? If you keep doing it, his hand will always be out for more. Somehow he failed to develop enough character to have too much pride to sponge off his mother.
By all means stop giving him money. You are enabling him to continua his immature behavior.
2006-11-26 06:44:04 · answer #5 · answered by delmaanna67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry mom, but it's time, well, past time, in making him be a man!
He can go work and pay bills. If it kills you to see him go, then at least make him get a job, pay YOU rent, utilities., and food. ALSO, if he stays in your home, make him do chores.; WE ALL have house chores to do no matter where we live, right?
Tell hi today, that he has 30 days to get out! Your the one hurting him by just being a handout. You don't want to hate yourself later.
2006-11-26 06:35:18 · answer #6 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep giving him money for no reason if you want him to be there when he is 32, and 42 and 52
If you really care about him, teach him how to fish.....dont give him the fish
2006-11-26 06:29:25 · answer #7 · answered by gary d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son is most likely on drugs, what is he spending the money on??? tell him to go get a JOB and maybe he'll understand the value of money... (dont say no, tell him to work for it!)
2006-11-26 06:32:33 · answer #8 · answered by Thobie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe your son is buying hookers or doing drugs. $300 should last at least a week...i would cut him off and tell him to get a freakin job.
2006-11-26 06:31:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must sit and talk to him face to face
and be so serious when you talk to him
tell him that i don't want anything from this world just to see you happy and a man.
talk to him about his futuer what he will do if you pass who will give him money
he must look for his futuer and start to act like aman he the one who must give you money not you
don't scream or be mad or do anything wrong talking to him in resonable way it may help
2006-11-26 06:57:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋