Why do women dislike unconfident men?

Question

I have loss of confidence at times (bad hair day, when at a dance club, when facing other men who also hit on my woman etc..) and notice that most women don't even approach me and stare at me with dislike during those times. On the other hand, when drunk, I am quite confident and even insult women a bit and they love it (I am not lying -- and I just insult them to get back at the times when they insult my being nice, but unconfident). Even guys who are murderers get women after coming out of jail because of confidence. In today's age where you can make money off the internet, is confidence really necessary? Why do women never go out with unconfident guys (there is such a guy in my office who is very good looking, but has zero confidence and zero girls)?

Answer 1

Real women like real men. Insecure women like insecure men. It's very simple.

Answer 2

Personally I don't count in one of those women to me ur not a real man if u've not hair on ur body. Its more of a turn on to see hair on a chest then for it bare. I don't care for the men who wax and all that its so stupid now women thats different and completely understandable we have to do that lol. I like em hairy like a man and not like little boys... The worst is when a man shaves his legs UGH OMG SICK but I've felt the same as u have when I'm with someone who wants me to get a breast job and I'm already naturally well .. anyway lets not go there lol but I hate ppl who want u to change ur body why marry them in the first place if they aren't already good enough for u.. Don't worry if I like chest hair and facial hair and such I'm not the only one there are other women so quite caring what the other women think ;) they aren't worth ur time if they are to judge u about ur body

Answer 3

I do not if this will help.I am 47 white male and still in the
singles market.I am shy and that seems to turn women off.
Over time the syness would go away once they got to know me.
As far as murderers getting out of prison,women like bad asses.They think the tougher they are the better.For example in high school girls will not go out with shy,unpopular boys or those that get bullied.They want
to go out with the popular guys who are bad asses.
I could not get a date when I was a teen to save my life.
For that guy in your office ask him to join you and some
office friends for happy hour at a bar after work.

Answer 4

Personally my Mr. is very confident (people think). Although this is just his guard up moad. At home he is not this way with us (I know him lol).

Insulting is not cool, could get your butt kicked around where we live....
Try sticking up for the girl you are with, this is respect for her. If she is nothing to you but someone you are talking to at the bar then you really do not have anything to be mad at. Work on the confidence around other men....this is what it sounds like to me where you are lacking. A guy who is nervous around women I think is cute!! You have to look at where you are trying to find that "one" gal too. Try going outside of a bar to find a gal....

Answer 5

Probably because the girls don't feel good with those that lack confidence. They don't feel the guy will take care of them, will have fun with them or such because it is pretty obvious he will have most of his attention on himself and maybe his failings to have attention on her or anything else. Too introverted. Not enough outgoing energy. Too much the victim and not enough hero.

Answer 6

Biology. Just like men are programmed to try to mate with as many women as they can, so women are wired inside to seek the strongest male. Watch the animals around you: as mammals, we do just what the other animals do, only in what seems like a more complex way. Same old story.

Answer 7

A lot of women want a man who is capable of protecting them nd taking care of them. (Even if they are totally self sufficient, they still want the man to be ABLE to do this.) Loss of confidence is taken as a sign of weakness and therefore undesirable.

Answer 8

I've heard women say they go out for bad boys coz they feel like those type of dudes can protect them...but from what I see...it's not the bad boys theyre going after...it's the bullies..yer on yer own bro...

Answer 9

let me ask you this? why would a man say about him he is uncomfident ??? dont say that about your self, keep your head up and be your self and never change the way you brought up because girls dislike that?? you just meet the wrong girls beside the club is not really a good place to meet girls ???

Answer 10

Uh....er....I....I don't know, er that is to say....I don't think I can really put in a way that is....let me put it another way...I think, I mean, I KNOW..I mean, I wish I had my encyclopedia here for reference, because I read about this the other day....hmmm...uh....Hey....why are you rolling your eyes and walking the other direction, girls....? GIRLS?