I've been dating a man for nearly a year. We've both gone through a divorce and both have kids from our previous marriages. He's spent time with my kids in the past, but I have not yet met his son. He always talks to me about him but has never actually introduced him to me. There's another part to this -- his son has some pretty serious emotional problems. He constantly has problems in school, has had to switch schools many times because of his problems, and also has problem making friends. Do you think the reason why he hasn't introduce him to m and my kids is because of his son's problems or is it something else? My bf has told me he wants me to meet him, and when I ask him when he just says, "Soon!"
2006-11-26 05:47:02 · 9 answers · asked by tranquil1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is the expert on his son. It may be more emotionally damaging to his son to meet you. Part of his sons problems may be because he and his wife divorced! Relax. This is not about you. Quit trying to push this thing forward. The child may end up hurting one or both of your kids...you never know. What I know is that I have seen emotionally disturbed children pushed right over the edge because of "blending" family's too fast for the e.d. child to deal with, and then that kid ends up in a mental hospital for treatment. Best of luck in your relationship. Nana
2006-11-26 05:52:27 · answer #1 · answered by nanawnuts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be that your boyfriend doesn't want to "rock the boat" with his son's life right now. Many of his problems could have been made worse with his Dad's divorce, and lots of kids have an adverse reaction when a new companion is introduced after divorce.
Try to talk to your boyfriend and find out the real reasons. Bring up that you would understand if it was the situation above, and be supportive of his decision. Ask about his son's well-being; show interest, but don't be pushy. He may just be trying to protect his little boy.
God bless.
2006-11-26 05:50:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it sounds like your boyfriend may be embarassed that his son has some issues. Maybe he's comparing him to your kids, and feels like you wouldn't want to date him anymore if you met his son, and he's just ashamed. Keep telling him you want to meet his son! Invite the two of them over for dinner and say you and your kids are just itching to meet his son! If he still has excuses, offer another night. If he STILL has excuses, tell him that it really seems like he is avoiding letting us meet his son and ask what the problem is. Good luck!
2006-11-26 05:51:15 · answer #3 · answered by Mental Patient 29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in a committed serious relationship, you should meet his son. However, this kid sounds like he has serious problems. Are you sure you want to expose your kids to this? I would think twice and then think some more. You may find yourself in a very bad situation.
2006-11-26 05:50:32 · answer #4 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably knows that his son is going to freak out and is going to be embarrassed. You should spend some time with him and get to know each other before you bring your kids into it. It may be overwhelming for his son to see dad with a new family.
2006-11-26 05:49:45 · answer #5 · answered by amoroushotmama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't like these kind of broken home, re-marriage sorts of situation that now appear to be the norm and have replaced stay-together marriages.
Most people that get divorced should remain thereafter, in my humble opinion.
2006-11-26 05:51:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is protecting you from his son. Since his son has all these problems he isn't willing to add to them. I doubt it has anything to do with you.
2006-11-26 05:50:22 · answer #7 · answered by mich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's probably scared that if he drags you into his family problems you'll leave. maybe suggest that you him and all of your kids spend time together? than it won't be as intimate and he might feel more comfortable if your kids are there as well.
2006-11-26 05:49:08 · answer #8 · answered by piratelove22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something sounds fishy here...
I don't know exactly what it is...
There is no legitimate reason for not having
introduced you to his son...
2006-11-26 05:50:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋