what can i do? my girlfriend feels threatened !?

Question

my girl friend feel in danger from one of neighbours daughters boyfriend, he is always hanging round there house and watching my partner, it started off with him delibritley bloking my girlfreinds car in so she couldn't get out with our 4 month old son. i warned him off, since he has made up lies to cause trouble between my girl and me, and our neighbour who was a close freind before all this. he has no job so he is hanging round while i am at work. my girlfreind is scared to leave the house when he is hanging round, she fears for the safty of her self and our son when i am not around. we can't get the police because we have no proof, what can i do to protect my family, if up to me i would kill the pervert (he is 22 and she is 16). any ideas please

there has been a misunder standing, me and my girlfreind are both 25 years old

Answer 1

get a "restraining order" on your neighbors daughter's boyfriend.

Answer 2

You don't need proof to file a police report. Also, whenever he comes around, call the cops, don't make a big production of but, maybe have a signal for someone to call the police if they think you all may be in trouble...

I would call a community advocate or get in touch with with a legal aid lawyer to find out what other options you both might have...This is creating a poison living environment for your family and it should not be tolerated!

Try to get someone to stay with your girl and the baby during the day...get other neighbors to look out for your young family as well...make sure everyone knows that you all are not cool with this guy and his presence is not wanted!

I am not in law enforcement and by no means is that exactly what may be right for you but, this is what I would do if faced with the same situation...

Good luck to you and hope this helps!

Answer 3

If I were her, I'd make sure that had her phone with her at all times and is there anywhere else she could park her car so that he doesn't block her in? She should not make eye contact with this guy or even look in his direction in case he tales it the wrong way. Does she has any family members close by that she could stay with occasionally? However the only thing is can do is when she is in the house and you are not there, make sure that all the doors are locked d, its a shame that she has to do this in her own home, but its better to be safe than sorry. Also I know that you can't get the police around, but it might be worth while mentioning him to them and explaining to them that she is scared and she feels threaten by him. Also it might be worth mentioning it to a few of your other neighbours so that if they see him talking to your girlfriend and she looks scared or anything at least they will intervene and check that she is okay

Answer 4

You are right, without proof,there is nothing you can do. I find that system rediculous. It seems like something has to happen before the police can get involved. Here'sa an idea, while you are at work, have her call a friend, someone (preferably an adult) she can trust to keep an eye out for her while she is going. Someone that is seeing what is going on. Or she should call someone to go out with her.Also, you guys should get a sign that says no parking in her space( in it is in a drive way. That way if he park there regardless, he is then liable to get his car toed. That should teach him to block other people. She could also get a restraining order against him from the court.

Answer 5

I would talk to the police. If they won't help then you need to look into a restraining order. An attorney could help you with this although it is much cheaper to have a paralegal prepare it and file it with the court. This would give you and her some legal protection so that if he comes near either of you he can be arrested. If you and her feel unsafe is it possible for the two of you to move somewhere else. It may be inconvenient but it is a small price to pay for your safety. Move quickly on this as this seems to be important for your familys safety.

Answer 6

Killing is never the answer. Sounds like you are young and immature as well as your neighbor. If your girlfriend is only 16 and has a child shouldn't she be at home with her parents anyway. Sorry just had to state the obvious. Best thing to do isd to document the activity then take your complaint to the authorities by law they have to go and talk to the guy maybe that will be enough to scare him off. Good Luck

Answer 7

well mark it sounds like you have a problem on your hands,what I would do is make sure no ones around(witnesses)and stomp the guys butt into the ground!but if your afraid the perv might shoot you or something just get a video phone from a friend or if you have one let you gf record the guy harrassing you 2!,or maybe arrange something with an older neighbor that has a video cam to record whats going on there!and if thats not an option then find someone crazier than him and pay them to kick his monkey *** hahaha !oh and another thing you might want to do is get ahold of his parents and let them know what he is doing! take care and be safe!

Answer 8

security system, and lots of self-help defense classes for her. You are a man-teacher her some moves for if anything ever happens when u arent there. Let the police atleast be aware of the situation, that way they make more "rounds" near your house-more often. As for leaving the house. make sure she parks where she can't be blocked in, and have mase(sp) or a pocket knife on her within arms reach. It seems alil dramatic, but better safe than sorry. good luck- hope nothing happens.

Answer 9

I don't think you need proof to call the police. Maybe if you call them, and they simply ask him questions he will back off. He is making her fear for her safety, and that is against the law, it is called assault. If you don't want to call the police, call up a bunch of tough friends and have them hang out for a while. I'm not advocating any violence here, but if he is trying to intimidate, then treat him with the same medicine.

Answer 10

wow this is a tough one that needs to be answered. Things like this need to be handeled with a police authorities. If thats does not work someone LIKE YOU needs to go up to the stocker and find out this problem. Something like this needs to be niped in the bud thats you dont come home and you girlfreind is dead

Answer 11

Begin with filing a stalking complaint, and continue to file them until the police take you seriously. You may want to consider a personal protection order, that way he must stay a certain distance from her at all times, and will be arrested if he violates the order. Good luck!