I'm an eighteen yrs old guy who needs a girl friend desperately. But it seems i can't get one as i am quite introverted and cool. i'm really dying of loneliness and curiousity but my personal disposition isn't helping me. I have also discovered that a vast majority of girls like guys that are quite loud. But i couldn't help being myself as i tried pretending to be loud and ended up embarassing myself in the past. So, what do i do? Pls Help!!
2006-11-26 05:41:21 · 14 answers · asked by Tim 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all, why do you DESPERATELY need a girlfriend?! Work on your social skills. You do not have to be loud and obnoxious to get attention. Not all girls like those kinds of guys. Get involved in something that interests you that also interests girls, so you can meet some that are more like yourself.
2006-11-26 05:45:42 · answer #1 · answered by mich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all Chronic, be just yourself. I heard what you said, you believe that hasn't worked for you up to now, but it will. Go see a counselor at the school, or another professional counselor and get to the bottom of why you are introverted. Truth is that most girls don't like loud guys. If you are a loud girl, it is usually to cover up the real you inside. Loud people are obnoxious and not so much fun to be around. Maybe while the party is going...but that is about all. Talk about why you think you simply must have a girlfriend. If it is just sex....forget about it. You can do better than that. Find a girl who likes you for you and let the rest happen when it is time. Too much pushing the sex issue these days. It will bite you in the butt my friend! You are a person of worth. Don't' sell yourself short for a girl that won't be around in a year! Love yourself first and others will love you too. I promise! Take care dear. Nana
2006-11-26 05:48:12 · answer #2 · answered by nanawnuts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't want to pretend to be someone ur not. You'll be in a relationship that isn't real because your not real. Be yourself. Try to be more outgoing, talk to more people, find a girl you might like and talk to her. If you don't find a girl right away at least you could make some friends and cure some of the loneliness. having different groups of friends can hook u up with different groups of girls and you can see what you really like and want. I'm a girl and i don't really like guys who are always loud as you say. don't worry and be desperate about it.
2006-11-26 05:54:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I despise loud men. So not cool for me. I like YOUR kind of guy, lol. You'll have to be patient and wait until the right girl comes along I guess. Try to talk with them one on one, instead of having to hang out with loud guys.. they'll steal the limelight away from you. When you talk to them, learn how to be suave and basically interested in them.. show them a lot of respect and courtesy. And you're good to go! Good luck!
2006-11-26 06:04:17 · answer #4 · answered by *~liYana~* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself. Don't be so desperate females run from that. If a girl was acting like that with you eventually you would want to run away also. Introduce yourself to people. Find out what it is about you that makes you believe no one would like you. I bet it's not what you think. Be first and foremost be who you are. There is someone for everyone at least once.
2006-11-26 05:49:13 · answer #5 · answered by dnisey64 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be desperate. It is a big turn off. Find a girl who is like you, quiet and respectful. You can meet them in school and in church. Ask your relatives if they know any nice refined girls from good families. You are going to find a nicer, sweeter girl than you can imagine.
2006-11-26 05:45:00 · answer #6 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to girls and ask a girl who you like on a date. If that does not work, come back and ask another question.
2006-11-26 05:46:36 · answer #7 · answered by Licious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be yourself but don't let your shyness get in the way of asking a girl out. I tis my personal expearance that few girls say no as long as they are singal
2006-11-26 08:10:13 · answer #8 · answered by Mystery Man 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh u well poorthing, u r 18 i am 12 and i have a boyfriend but i know a couple of girls but they are all from jamaica the caribbean but good luck
2006-11-26 05:45:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should begin with not being so desperate, girls feel it. build some trust. the right one will come on her own, you don't have to search for anything.
good luck
2006-11-26 05:46:28 · answer #10 · answered by dragaralu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋