Why can't I get off with her? Is it me?

Question

I really love this girl, we are a few months into a serious relationship, and we want to make it a little more serious. We've messed around a little bit, I seem to be doing fine making her feel alright, but when she tries to make me feel good, and she really tries, I can't come, at all. Its worked fine by itself for years, and now when it counts, it won't do it. Its both of our first serious relationship, and we both have no real experience. Shes starting to think its because she doesn't arouse me, but she does. What am I doing wrong, or what can I change?

Answer 1

Well first of all, you gotta really get rid of those Playgirl magazines under your bed, they are confusing the hell out of you.
Second, try mutual masterbation, for starters. (You play with yourself,she does too, then vice-versa.)
Third, if you can get it up ,but can`t "finish", relax a little more it`ll come naturally.(Try drinking a bottle of Asti-Spumante off her body.)
Fourth, if steps 1 thru 3 don`t work, and you can`t get it up after trying oral sex, and also maybe a candle lit bath/shower together, or Viagra continue to step five.
Fifth, maybe you should forget about steps one thru four and retreive those Playgirl mags. You might even consider a member ship at the YMCA.
Sixth, don`t forget to give her my phone number before she leaves.

Answer 2

First of all don't think you're the only male who has experienced this. Your condition could have a lot to do with stress. Do you find yourself being nervous around this girl? What fears do you have about the relationship? Are you physically tired? Are you finding yourself literally trying to perform (like work) rather than have a natural sexual encounter? Are you feeling tensed? Are you under
of pressure? Well you get the picture about being stressed.

If you're stressing your body can shut down even when you think that you really want to have sex. If the mind is clouded with other activities, you can forget, your manhood will shut down. And this happen with women as well. So try relaxing and making sure the timing and environment is just right. And reassure your lady friend that it is not her.

Answer 3

Your not doing anything wrong! My boyfriend was the same way for almost a year! We just tried different things to see if they would work. If you masterbate a lot that can cause this cause your so use to doing it yourself instead of someone else. All you can do is keep trying that shouldn't matter though if you two love eachother. It's just being together is what counts....
Best of luck to you!!!

Answer 4

I doubt either of you are doing anything wrong. You could be nervous, and the longer it goes on, the worse it probably is for you. Or, your body just may not respond to the way she touches you. Try giving her a little guidance in that area, if not verbal, take her hands in your and show her what you like. Most girls will appreaciate a little communication and help in that area.

Answer 5

You sound stressed. Maybe you are putting too much on this. Wait a few days then try again, you'll probably be more excited if you wait awhile, also you need to figure out why you are putting all this pressure on yourself or what's scaring you.

Answer 6

Two big mistakes we make in this life:

1- waiting, taking no action on things that we should act on.

2- trying to "make" things happen that can only happen naturally or that we should wait for.

Answer 7

Perhaps you are too tense / trying too hard ?
Maybe a few drinks first ?
Watch some porn together over a few drinks...

Answer 8

You are too nervous. Try to relax a bit.

Answer 9

Dont worry time and tide will not wait for none

Answer 10

the more you worry about this the harder it wont get. relax your young. nature will take its course. if after so many times contact your MD.