Why do i love making women's lives miserable?

Question

I think its because they made mines a living hell when i was younger in middle and early high school. i was constantly picked on, constantly ignored, constantly told "you just too nice. there's someone else in my life now."

Funny how most of those guys who teased me are now broke, unpopular and have babies by several different women.

im 22 now, have my own car, house, and a very very good job that people who are in their 30's long for....im not an ugly dude. and although i know most of the women ive had sex with only want money, i never give it to them, never call back, never do anything...i just wanted to say this because i want those guys out there who have been turned down again and again by women and have no friends to know that it wont be that way all your life. (LOL a girl who i went to school with and didnt give me the time of day back then just texted me and wants me to go out with her to some bar tonight) God bless.

Answer 1

Wonderful. Now you have status anxiety, you're materialistic, and you're pretentious, and you have a moving-truck FULL of BAGGAGE!

I have to smack you around before I give you my honest advice and sincere help for your situation. Bear with me here....

You have become an extreme approval-seeker. I have known many.

Obviously, you are. Otherwise you wouldn't be on here telling us all about your "vindication" fantasies. Maybe they are true, but you neglected to tell us much about yourself, other than how much better you are than most.

You are severely misguided, thinking you have the right to punish women randomly (when they had nothing to do with the reason you lack self-esteem in the first place). You fear women the way I fear bees (I am allergic).

Maybe you should try counseling. Then, you might actually discover what's good about you inside, rather than defining yourself by such superficial means (like what you own). You would learn some better coping skills. MAybe you don't need to.

Then, maybe you would feel more comfortable attracting females with your PERSONALITY, not with what you own,.....

And you might actually find someone who is interested in YOU, not what you have.

When you dangle your possessions in front of others, those that are attracted, will be attracted to you for your possessions.

DUHHHH.

Your problems are all self-fulfilling. You chose to be a professional victim. Get over it. You're not a victim. You are a SURVIVOR. Survivors are sexy....

Is this all because some chick rejected you as a child? Maybe a couple cruel little girls made fun of you?

Get over it. Why give her/them your power? What makes her/them so important and significant enough to destroy your self-esteem?

So now, do ALL woman make you feel inadequate and emasculated? Is that why you seek to punish them?

Well, you obviously think you're onto something here.

Hurting women.....

How's that working for you?

Still alone?

Maybe that's because the healthier women avoid guys with tons of baggage.


It must be pretty lonely for you to always stay hidden behind your walls you put up.

Enjoy! Unless you decide to let go of all that BAGGAGE, you will feel this way forever!

Do you also pick up poop and out it in your pocket? Carrying baggage is virtually the same thing. Bagage stinks and good people avoid those that stink.

Here's how to get over it.

Forgive those that sought out to hurt you. They lack integrity and conviction. They can't help it. They're a**holes. A**holes should not be granted enough power to alter your feelings.

Thank them for showing you what types of people to avoid in the future. Thank them for the experience.

Vow to not be a victim, and not allow yourself to behave the same way as the a**holes. You are above all of that. You have better things to do with your time and energy. Share the love.

The way you treat others is a direct reflection of how you feel about yourself. You treat women like worthless crap, because that's how you feel.

Start treating women how you want them to treat you. try a little respect, appreciation, admiration, and acceptance. Give them what you want for yourself. give freely, unconditionally, and without exception. It will all come back to you.

Why don't you take a gourmet cooking class, take up kickboxing, learn the tango and salsa dancing, and lift weights. Build yourself up from the inside out.

Women will be attracted to your well-rounded variety of interests, your passion and drive to improve your life, and they willwant to be a part of that. Attract women with WHAT YOU CAN DO, rather than what you HAVE. Don't let them see your car right away, your home, or your paycheck.

Besides, with the tango, you get to be the man, and with salsa, you get to watch her shake it. And as with all balroom dancing, it is a physical expression of two partners working together. Plus, you will be able to woo women and romance them. And you can still do it when you get old. Guys who can dance (all kinds) are sexy....

Lifting weights and kickboxing will not only make you look great, and it will give you focus and balance. You will feel more esteem and confidence, plus you can vent your frustrations in a healthy way, where no one gets hurt. It will raise testosterone levels and make you feel more powerful and attractive (without hurting anyone).

And You can cook gourmet meals on a date, which is waaaaayy more impressive that dinner at a nice restaurant. The effort a man makes to do something for a woman is so much sexier than what he is willing to spend on her.

Besides, good women can't be bought. Try to buy them, and you will be treating them like whores.

So get off your a**, lose the chip on your shoulder with thanks and forgiveness, dust yourself off, forgive yourself, sign up at a fitness center and dance studio, sign up for cooking courses, start meeting women at the store, Borders, the gym, and coffee shops (while you're reading gourmet cook books) make a date with a woman to try a new recipe and go dancing, or dinner and the gym to work it off. Don't sleep with women until at least 4 months into dating them. That way, you'll not be wasting your time on whores.

I promise, if you give yourself a chance, you will find a woman worthy of knowing who you really are, and she won't try to exploit you in any way. She will be worthy of your time, attention, compassion, and empathy. Maybe even your love....

Take care!

Answer 2

Seems to me, you have lost track of your values if you had any. Similar to the abused child who becomes the abuser, you are becoming the people you hated growing up. My recommendation would be to use your newfound "all that and a bag of chips" as an opportunity to filter through all the women you meet and find the one for you. If you don't, I assure you, the tables will eventually turn again and you will be on the other side again. A miserable, old, obnoxious jerk who no one will give the time of day again. Then what?
Might even want to consider therapy. Either way, good luck to you.

Answer 3

sounds like my sons ex she has something to say the minute she knows he is seeing someone she even went a far as comming over being nice to my son to snoop into his phone to find her number and called her and our family names and telling her alkinds of crazy sh--t and yes calls the police saying he beats her and harrasses her which is nothing but lies her she left my son for someone else when the child is dropped off a family member is there so that she cant say these things I was her boyfriend hitting her i saw bruises on her neck and my son goes nowhere near her furthermore if she did tell the cops this why did,nt they come here and make an arrest shes a liar and also a minipulator They are drama queens and trouble makers I can tell you this they left they got what they wanted leave people alone get your own life it has been almost three years now still in courts she is getting married when the divorce is done halliueh

Answer 4

well i know where you are comming from i am a 20 year old female and i was always constanly being picked on and you are not making there lifes miserable they are you are just looking put for you and that is what you should always do you are you and unlessn you are married you dont have to give them **** unless you want to i have made some major mistakes in my life such as having a child to early but i found a man that dosent mind the fact that i mad a mistake and he is willing to adopt my son as his own son name and all so honey there is a woman out there that will want yu for you and not waht you have to give to here it is just trial and error
good luck and god bless

Answer 5

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Answer 6

They got pregnant by women? Damn, *****, don't tell me you made a ho go lez!

Pregnant by several different women. You ARE smart. Didn't even know that was possible.

Answer 7

you want to feel good about your self. you want to feel like you know have control and your not that little boy anymore. you want them to know you are oler and you have everything you wante and know they cant o anything about it. you want them to know that they have nothing on you.

Answer 8

i think it's because you are a jerk. but don't worry, girls like jerks for some reason. why is another question

Answer 9

I'M GLAD YOUR DOING SO WELL. HOPE YOU FIND THE RIGHT PERSON FOR YOU. YOUR STILL YOUNG SO YOU HAVE LOTS OF TIME.

Answer 10

that's not fair. girls that did that should pay not others. they have not done anything to you.