Why do I keep living my life like if I were a 15 year old when I am 20yrs old?

Question

I have my own car, a job, go to college, I am more independent compared to the past years but not much have changed and I have a mother that is making me sick. She controls me, she keeps track of everything I do. She knows where I go. The woman even read my thoughts!!! She knows how I feel by simply looking at my face and immediatly come to her own conlusions and acusses me.

I feel that she doesn't want me to make any mistake in my life and that I have to do what she says, and I am getting bothered by this. Years ago I was indifferent about this but now is affecting me. In spite of all the achievements I have done I realized that these achievements have only been for them because right now I am not content with myself.

I though I was the one who was afraid to let go, but I realized that my mother is the one who doesn't want to let go of me.

Answer 1

I am sure that your Mother only wants the best for you. You sound like a very inteligent young lady. You may want to think about moving out of the house. Possibly with some friends from college or work. Someone who is also responsible like yourself.
It may not be easy for your Mom or you but it may be time to make this move.
Your relationship with her will change but for the most part, it will be for the better.
Good luck!

Answer 2

She is doing this because u let her.I have a 18 yr old in college and works with me.I told him he was grounded cuz he pissed me off and he laughed at me.In return it made me laugh.You need to sit down with her calmly and tell her that u would appreciate it if she would stop treating u like a child.Tell her that u are old enough to make your own decisions and to please stay out of it.You also might want to tell her that if she insist on doing it then u might look somewhere esle to live.This way she knows u mean business.Good luck

Answer 3

You need to get out of her house in order to be completely independent. With you both in the same home, she will continue to sdo as she has been doing. To her, you will always be her little boy, despite that you are a grown man now.
If you get a roomie or 2, that can make the change easier financially for you.

Answer 4

your mother sounds very controling. Go on move out and tell her you need some alone time. She might get upset with you at first but after a while you'll probably be closer than ever.That happened to me. Good luck.. Stay strong and don't back down from your dreams.

Answer 5

sorry but by now u shud know that a person can tell a lot about u simply by yr body language. if u don't like her woman tossing u around like a teenager then u have to stop acting like 1 (if u r) n tell her to back off.

Answer 6

Because you haven't faced any changeling decisions/obstacles since you were 15 and you mother is shielding you from them. Cut the apron strings and break free.

Answer 7

In 2010 I lost my 2 oldest cats. The oldest became 19 a million/2 years previous and the different sixteen. I fed them purina cat chow the form named one. the two one in all them have been interior cats. I by no ability enable them to outdoors except I took them to the vet for his or her annual checkup.

Answer 8

Stand up to her and tell her to quit being a b*tch or she will push you away from her. I had to do that to my mom. It was the hardest thing i ever had top do but she can not treat you like a kid forever

Answer 9

Well I'm 46 and i still think like I'm 19 stay young for as long as you can

Answer 10

Get sent to prison, that'll throw a monkey in her plans!