Last year I lost a baby at 12 weeks and the one year anniversary of that date is coming up soon. I got pregnant almost immediately after that and we now have a healthy baby boy. My husband seems to want to put this all behind us since we have a baby now but I never got a chance to really "get over" the lose because I was so overwhelmed with gettnig pregnant again so soon. What is something I can do to remember my lost child and is it a good idea to want to remember this child or is my husband right by just letting the past go?
2006-11-26 04:25:18 · 5 answers · asked by Winnie08_98 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Sorry that happened. I see it like this you know, what soothes you. And if it keeps you, striving to survive this journey. Then I pray you continue to see, that life has a way of raising the road up to meet you. That these things that sadden us, will pass in it's own time. Take the time and space you need, to get through this and all things to come! Cherish the life allowed and honor the life that was. Walk on the path that is True, only you know this. Your spouse feels it necessary for (whom)? If not handled appropriately, this could cause a wedge in you r relationship. A lost of a child is not a let's just move on. Especially a first time Mom. I really fear what could take place, if you are not allowed to release your sadness. ( Your feelings are so Justified) Free yourself. Talk to your spouse,True Love is understanding, empathizes, and Uplifts! I'm praying for your Family.
2006-11-26 07:02:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with mourning your lost child. Light a candle on every anniversary and send your thoughts to the child's spirit. You can do this in private, and it will make you feel better without offending your husband.
2006-11-26 04:48:12 · answer #2 · answered by AnnieD 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is never a good idea to dwell on the past, but healing takes time. Do not make special effort to keep your loss at the forefront of your mind, but do not beat yourself up for not being able to let it go in "record" time.
Your husband means well....it's just that men and women see the world in different ways.
2006-11-26 04:32:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i lost one at 22 weeks a little girl.her birthday is now marked by a disaster. sept,11 she was born 3 years earlier i have no choice but remember hers. i now have a 3 year old son who knows about her. the other two misscarriages we havent talked about. i was 10 weeks and 5 weeks. we have decided to not remember though every year i always do. i never mention it to my hubby he doesnt want to talk about it at all. so i have let it be. you may cry. but its normal and ok. never forget that child it is your first child
2006-11-26 04:32:03 · answer #4 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get past it. Maybe you could just think about the child once in a while, just not all the time. It's not good to just "forget" it. "Forget" it for a while.
2006-11-26 04:34:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋