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My boyfriend and I have known each other for five years and we've been together for two years. I love him very much and we're both really good for each other. We're planning to move in with each other in about a year and it scares me. I've never lived with anyone else before (I live with my parents) and I don't know what to expect. I know we will fight like every couple does, but what is normal and what isn't? I know it's still a year away but it's on my mind all the time. Does anyone have any answers or suggestions?

2006-11-26 04:24:41 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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I think the idea of "normal" varies greatly person to person, so it's hard to say what's normal and what isn't. But here's my advice:

- If you don't trust him completely, I mean 100%, then DO NOT do it. Trust issues are one of the hardest things to work through in a relationship, especially if you're living together.

- COMMUNICATION!!!! You must be comfortable communicating with your boyfriend and vice versa. Always get things off your chest immediately to avoid harboring ill feelings that easily turn into resentment. Be open and honest at all times and expect the same from him.

- Be prepared to deal with all of his habits, if any. Remember to be patient, understanding and compromise whenever necessary. Being rude or insulting will have you at eachothers throats in no time.

- Sit down with him prior to the move and write out a "plan". Make sure you cover all grounds and put it all in writing so there's no questioning things later. Make him aware of your expectations and find out what he expects of you. Who will pay for what? Who is responsible for the shopping? Who will do the dishes, cleaning, laundry, etc... It's best to figure it all out before you go for it!

- Remember you are a team. Always work together for the betterment/benefit of you both.

I could go on and on.... but hopefully this helps a little. Good luck!

2006-11-26 04:53:26 · answer #1 · answered by Shellbus 2 · 3 0

communication is the key. if he does things to get on your nerves (and he will) let him know dont wait until it gets to the point of anger even hate. The same can be said for him, you will do things he will find irritating you must get these issues out. living with someone can be a very pleasurable experience, my partner and i were together as live in lovers for 22years six months. we had our up's and our downs. eventually we began to take one another for granted and that is what killed our relationship. Never assume that he is ok and dont allow him to assume you are. Talk to eachother everyday and one thing more. try to do something nice for eachother no-matter how silly at least once a week.if nothing else you can laugh and love together. most of all a united front against all comers is essential. if you are going to be together then be together, others drive wedges. but keep your friends both of you. You never know when or how you may need them or they you. i wish you both all the luck in the world enjoy life that is what it's for

2006-11-26 04:35:38 · answer #2 · answered by Cff 2 · 0 0

Things are different when two people share the same household. The little things never seen, just seem to pop out of no where.

Don't worry!

I am going to assume since you have known each other for a good length of time, you have terrific communication with one another.

That's all it takes to over come anything you may encounter in any relationship is GOOD COMMUNICATION.

2006-11-26 04:28:36 · answer #3 · answered by LucyLinnae M 2 · 1 0

Expect more fighting and most likely sloppy man behaviors, leaving socks around, trash, no help with laundry, dishes, cleaning, grocery's, food preparation and there are going to be sports on a lot and video games. Don't become his wife before your married or he'll never propose.

2006-11-26 04:28:18 · answer #4 · answered by sara b 2 · 2 0

just remember a true relationship is not 50/50 it's each gives 80 and expects 20

2006-11-26 04:28:21 · answer #5 · answered by shellac227 2 · 3 0

Talk over expectations with him (financial, household chores, etc) to minimize conflict when you are already moved in. Kinda sounds like your not ready for this, though and it's a long way off to be worrying about it already.

2006-11-26 04:28:54 · answer #6 · answered by dreamer1414 2 · 1 0

All depends on your current relationship...the saying goes"you never KNOW about a person until youve lived with them"
Good Luck to ya!
I suggest you get ya own apt just in case it doesnt work out...he'll have to go(lol*my opinion)Get yaself together first .


xperieced woman

2006-11-26 04:30:39 · answer #7 · answered by ms.yahoo answers 2 · 1 0

i wouldn't move in with him becuse if your scared it would just srew it up and u2 well break up, and u relly don't wont to do that u should do it after your really ready to spend the rest of your life with him.then get marred,and move in.just wait a year then move in
~<3jamie<3~

2006-11-26 04:45:11 · answer #8 · answered by jamie 3 · 0 0

Why are you moving in with him instead of marrying him? After 5 years there is a saying "**** or get off the pot".

2006-11-26 04:28:00 · answer #9 · answered by kny390 6 · 2 0

well it sounds like you have been together long enough for it to work... remember like any roommate to respect and give the other person space when needed. Good luck!

2006-11-26 04:28:45 · answer #10 · answered by angel007 3 · 1 0

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