i fancy a lad at work, but he has a boyfriend, what do i do?

Question

i fancy this lad i work with, i know he is gay bu the has a boyfriend, what do i do, all i do at work is sit, looking at him and daydreaming!

Answer 1

You should talk to him nicely and carry conversation. Don't be shy, which is what you sound like! But that's ok, you can overcome this with some self-confidence. Just be his friend (and co-worker) and let him take it from there! Being yourself always seems to be the missing ingredient to a successful relationship...if that's what you want or are looking for? Good luck! Caio...

Answer 2

Even if you're male too, he's not available! If you're female it's even more apparent that nothing will ever happen. You'll always meet people you fancy who are taken, it's a sad fact of life, but you need to move on and find someone new. Breaking up his relationship is no way to start a new relationship, you'll be forever wondering if he'll leave you for the first available person that comesalong. Just a thought but maybe you want him more cos you can't have him!! Get out there and have some fun, meet new people and put this guy out of your mind. Good luck x x x

Answer 3

Just because someone says they are gay, it doesn't mean they're right. My friends wife once had a boyfriend who thought he was gay, and he really did fall in love with her. Not sure why the relationship folded, but it left the guy in a state of confusion regarding his sexual orientation. The confusion was caused by the lack of information regarding bisexuality.

However, in this case, the guy has a boyfriend. You just have to hope that they split up and the guy turns out to be bisexual and open to the idea of any kind of relationship with you. Its a long shot but its the only chance you've got. Otherwise, you have to take the advice on this forum and look elsewhere. Then again, its easier said than done !!

Answer 4

He's taken, so that's all there is to it, you're out of luck. Find a way to get your work done, or ask to be reassigned to a different desk or location, or change jobs.

There are plenty of lads out in the world, and if you open your eyes you'll find one who is available and interested. If someone came along and tried to lure your lad off, you would be hurt and angry, so don't try and lure this lad off. That would just be awful and wrong.

Answer 5

Ah Bless, one of my best friends is gay and he is absolutely gorgeous and also has a boyfriend. I am afraid there is very little you can do about it unless of course he is bi???

Ask him if he likes women, if he has every been with a woman and if he would consider doing it? You will be able to gain alot from this but you have to be prepared for him to say that he is 100% gay, if he isnt then ask him out, maybe you and him and his bf could have some fun!

Personally I don't think i could be head over heals for someone who might have poo on their tail! lol

Hope you manage to work it out. xxx

Answer 6

Don't do anything drastic, just get to know him better and become friends, that way, when they break up you will be the first to know.

you will know then the right time to make your move and if he is interested in you in the same way :)

Answer 7

be the best friend he ever had and then he may look at you differently,fall in love with you,dump his fella and the two of you will live happily ever after.
THE END.

Answer 8

have a 3 some with him and his man

Answer 9

Just ignore the fantasy and be in the realistic world.

Answer 10

I don't think it's ethical to intervene in others' relationships. I would get on with my life but keep him in mind if you hear of him breaking up with his boyfriend.