if a normal guy like me was really attracted to you but did not know you. What would I have to do so that I don't come across as to desperate or only looking for one thing. And also what would I say because I don't know you but want to get to know you. This is just a hypotheticall question and would apriciate any advice you could give thanks.
2006-11-26 04:13:09 · 33 answers · asked by Trevor 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the thing you must do first is ask a question like:what school of university do you go? or wasn't the test hard today?
just a simple question the next time you meet say " oh hi you are the girl i saw yesterday? or i saw you yesterday and want to know your name..... keep on going until you ask her on a date
good luck
2006-11-26 04:24:48 · answer #1 · answered by Maral 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is how I would have liked to be approached by guys when I was young and single: I wouldn't ask her out right off because a lot of girls don't want to get anything started with somebody they don't even know, and it doesn't sound like you'd especially enjoy getting a flat-out rejection yourself.
First, just look at her until she sees you looking at her- it is a universal message of attraction. Next time, make a short comment, keep it light, and funny if possible, but just about anything will do as long as you show a little confidence without being cocky. For example, don't slouch or put yourself down or act like your life depends on her approval, but don't brag either. Be happy and calm. Work up from there. Focus on her, everybody likes to talk about themselves.
A lot of girls are very good at picking up a guy's hint and running with it, if they like the guy. If there's no encouragement from her after a few progressive steps, she's not interested. When you're reasonably sure that she might accept a date, ask her out for a particular time and place, preferably a very casual thing that's barely a date. Ex. I'm hungry for a pizza, want to come with me?, not Would you go out with me sometime?, and not Would you like to go to the Prom with me? Girls don't like having to turn guys down cold, and also plenty of times they'll fall for a guy they didn't know was their type if he will give them a chance to get to know them before he demands a yes or no.
If she says she can't to your casual pizza offer, ask her something along those lines again another time. If she makes an excuse again, and she doesn't suggest anything else herself, she's not interested. I liked it when a relationship evolved without ever actually going on any formal dates first, dates are like job interviews, yuck. Good luck.
2006-11-26 05:05:06 · answer #2 · answered by ms.fruitbat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start smiling when you see the girl, and then progress to saying 'hello' If she looks interested, then you need to find something you have in common. For example, if she is a neighbour, there might be a concern or issue in the neighbourhood you could talk about. Alternatively, be honest, say you have noticed her and that she looks like someone nice to get to know. But if you get rebuffed too much then give up - remember she might not be nice, or she might already havea boyfriend and just not be interested.
2006-11-26 04:23:26 · answer #3 · answered by Peace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask the young lady, how is your day going? Also did you have a good thanksgiving? Where you with family? So do you celebrate Christmas? and then you can go on to, current events, or you never know she, may just start talking, and asking you all kinds of questions. You can also ask her about, how she feels about holiday times? because some people have a hard time around holidays, feeling depressed. I hope this is a start for you!
2006-11-26 04:21:55 · answer #4 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say hi casually and say that you can't help but notice that the girl is special and extraordinary. Would she care to join you for lunch or dinner and get to know each other better. Just state what your intention are and be truthful. She will feel it and may give you a chance in letting you to get to know her better. I'm really not sure about other girls. But i suppose that every girls expect different treatment from guys. So wish you good luck!
2006-11-26 04:20:07 · answer #5 · answered by Daffodil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her and get to know her. Start talking about something trivial then ask her something about herself and remember it -- something that interests her or is going on in her life. Don't outstay your welcome, a minute or two will do. A bit later that week or month when you see her again, ask her about that interest or how things turned out. Respond by complimenting her somehow and also reveal just a little about yourself too --something in a similar vein -- it's give and take, not an inquisition! You'll then be getting to know each other, and if you feel she likes you then ask her out for a drink.
2006-11-26 04:30:42 · answer #6 · answered by Summer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about trying to join an activity that the girl is interested in then you can strike up a conversation with her that way. Then it doesn't look like you're desperate or stalking her. Also, you will have something in common to talk about without feeling awkward. :)
2006-11-26 04:16:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say Hi and try to get to know us. Be yourself.
Actually this could be the perfect time because you could ask her how her Thanksgiving was. That's an easy and normal opener right now.
2006-11-26 04:16:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you should act nice to her.. like open the door or something.. and talk to her ask her questions about her day, what she likes and what she doesn't and give her hints that you like her by showing that you want to be with her more and more and that you like her as a person.. it might take sometime to get your relationship somewhere but i think the work is worthwhile.
2006-11-26 04:19:29 · answer #9 · answered by ohhh lalalala 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definatley honesty is the best policy...you could always get a group of your m8s togehter and ask her to do the same and go 10 pin or something, something were you will all have fun and it will easy to break the ice.
2006-11-26 04:57:21 · answer #10 · answered by debs1701 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋