Ok, here's the situation. Two weeks ago today I broke up with my boyfriend of six months. It was actually a mutual breakup though, since he had no objections. He and I had been fighting a lot during the last several weeks of the relationship. Before that, we were getting along pretty well, and were in love. He treated me very well before all the really bad fighting started. Two days after the breakup I sent him an email asking for forgiveness since I ended the relationship so abruptly and while his parents were still in town. (I met them a few days prior) He never replied to that email, though. Yesterday I really had the urge to talk to him, so I called him up and left a voicemail saying hi and that I'd like to still be friends if he wants to as well. So far he hasn't called me back. I'm having a really hard time letting go and moving on. I guess I still have some feelings for him. I think I'd feel so much if he'd contact me so we could talk. Anyone else going thru this?
2006-11-26 04:08:30 · 5 answers · asked by Mysti1000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I can relate to your situation. I too had a relationship to where we were so "in love" in the first part of our 8 month relationship. It usually is happy during the first couple of months because of the excitement and the part of getting to know each other. Then for some it continues over because of good communication/trust and relating to each other. For some it ends up the opposite way. Insecurities play a major role in this. That's the reason for the fights. Ask yourself are you fighting over things that are small that somehow leads to big fights? Or does the fight continue like a broken record. There are issues revolving around the person that brings them up. Also ask yourself this. Do you miss his old self or do you miss the fights? If he doesn't make an attempt to return any of your calls, give him some time to heal or maybe it's time to move on. The problem could be him not being mature enough to handle a break up. I hope this help. Take care of yourself. you'll eventually meet someone who can be both your friend and your boyfriend.
2006-11-26 04:20:11 · answer #1 · answered by winter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What was the fight about? If you ever get in touch with him (good luck!), tell him that you want to discuss about the fight/argument both of you had---"how can we make it better?" Like you said if he wants to be just friends, that's good then you can build on that. For example, if both of you are friends for a long time, you and a group of friends invite him for some fun like movies, arcades, or to the park play some ball, anything fun....flirt with him a little show him that you still love him.....but not too often or too much....just a little.
Hope it helped!
2006-11-26 04:14:38 · answer #2 · answered by Isabelle P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is still very upset. give him time as even though you want to get back together with him, the feeling may not be mutal. in the meantime preoccupy yourself by doing other things and be prepared that he may never come back as a boyfriend or as a friend.
good luck!
2006-11-26 04:14:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get over your ex. and move on. Take this time to get yourself together. Life does go on. get out their and have some fun! concentrate on other things, do something to make yourself happy!
2006-11-26 04:14:25 · answer #4 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know where he lives (obviously), go to his house and talk to him. Get it out of your system and move on.
2006-11-26 04:11:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋