........ should I join one? What are the upsides/downsides?
2006-11-26 03:36:25 · 13 answers · asked by malaga 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well I have joined a few and it didn't work out for me. I even bought member ship and it didn't pan out. So I reccomend to you is to do one at a time. Set up a free profile if you can and see how many view your profile. Try to avoid words like perky or outgoing and tell people who you really are. If you put up a pic people are more likely to look at your profile. Don't and I repeat don't put pictures of you and your friends. You might get mistaken for your friends. Take some of you in nice clothes looking your sexiest, and then some of things you like to do. In the end I think really is going out into the real world and meeting people the old fashion way.
2006-11-26 03:45:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are as good a way to meet someone as anything else. However, you should apply the usual rules about being cautious, meeting in a very public place etc. Saying that, dating by internet sites is in many ways a great way to meet people .... you have total control over things until your are prepared to meet, you can access a photo and lots of detail about your potential date, you can chat to your hearts content by email or messenger until you feel comfortable enough to go further and with that great female intuition that women possess, that is usually enough for you to proceed. Downsides? They can be expensive, people may simply be miles away ( and long distance relationships can be difficult ), and there will be some men who are simply looking for a fling or something that is non committal. Overall I think they are great however .... it's all a question of getting used to the system and making it work for you ..... that special person may simply be the first or the last one you talk to .... so you must listen to your heart as always. Good luck! PS ... my current partner and I met on the net and she's a poppet ... got to say that, she's sitting right next to me! :-)
PPS! AS per BIGBADWOLF ... quality people DO join dating sites .... I would like to think everyone is 'quality' in some way ... to say otherwise is shallow and arrogant.
2006-11-26 03:49:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should! I joined match and yahoo personals and had a great time. I tried eharmony, but did not like the set up. On eharmony, you don't get to look at profiles, you just have to wait for them to match you up by compatibility traits. I didn't meet anyone I hit it off with, even though the site said they only match you with people who you should be compatible. I had the most luck on match--the most available men and I like their format. Pros: you get to meet men you would have never met in real life, you can email before meeting to see if you have any interest, you can see what they look like, learn about their interests, and take things slowly. Cons: there are two that I noticed. First, you never know if their photo is current, so you may be unpleasantly surprised. Second, some of the people on the site are married and are just looking for sex. I found that was rare, and that really, people are fairly normal and just looking for love.
Good Luck!
2006-11-26 03:46:35 · answer #3 · answered by schweetums 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before trying any, try Craigslist.com, then MySpace.com, then Friendster.com
Don't buy subscriptions. They are expensive. You are the girl. The guy should buy the subscription.
Also, don't go too romanticish...people at work could be looking at your profile. Keep your search simple and straight-forward, like "I'm trying to meet people to explore the possibility of having a long-term relationship." That's it.
Give a little bit about what you like to do and what do you on your spare time for fun, growth, and personal development.
People are going to take it one of two ways: You're too desperate and you are need (which isn't always the case), OR you're simply trying something new, something new that almost EVERYONE seems to be doing. Online dating is very "in."
And if you do meet people, keep it extremely public. Just watch yourself out there. Try making friends, not boyfriends yet.
Some people out there are not on their right minds.
Good luck.
Cheers.
=D
2006-11-26 03:43:02 · answer #4 · answered by Mario E 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Upside is that you might meet someone you care about. Downside....a quality person will not have to join a dating site to find a date.
2006-11-26 03:40:17 · answer #5 · answered by bigbadwolf 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Very good as they give people the opportunity to break the initial ice that they couldn't do so in a normal face to face situation.
Why would you want to join one for? Email me and maybe we could get to know one another better and take it from there, just like an dating site.
You see I have just said something to you, via this, that I probably wouldn't have done so if we were in a pub, club, bus, tube, street etc.
2006-11-26 03:46:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well you can join but unless you pay for memeber ship you get NO WHERE. I am not about to pay to find a guy. I joined but didnt pay for anything so as you can see it got me no where. Good luck
2006-11-26 03:41:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
I think they're a bunch of crap. Commercials are just bulls*iting everyone. Maybe a couple people have met their boyfriend or girlfriend on there but I feel that it's dangerous.
2006-11-26 03:40:28 · answer #8 · answered by tia 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
i think nothing good will ever come of these sites, they are only there for cheating twats to find an easy score, i advise you not to join one, and if you do may god have Mercy on your soul!
2006-11-26 11:04:41 · answer #9 · answered by KELLY I 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Internet dating frightens me! I look at to much crime tv. so what ever floats ur boat! Go for IT
2006-11-26 03:41:22 · answer #10 · answered by bigbabygirl 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋