Ive been dating a nice man in a city 20 km away. He's divorced 2x he says. 3 kids. we see eachother only on Sunday nites. For 3 months now. he drives here. We havent made it to 3rd base, he backed off from it 2x already. it took 3 months to get his number. Every time ive tried to call voicemail came up right away.
I would like to know what to do physically to get involved into his life. He says he just moved in with a friend. and now his internet is gone too. I am seeing him tonight. tonight i want to tell him im having these thoughts. or im gone. How should i approach this without seeming too clingy. there is no proof--- but "the only thing that makes sense- is that none of it makes sense to me"
tell me what to do and what important things to ask- so tonight i can make a decision.... because im in love...the veil is over my own eyes. I need advice and help fast... Please and thankyou
2006-11-26 03:29:35 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the best way to assest this situation is to ask him about it just tell him how u feel
2006-11-26 03:41:25 · answer #1 · answered by Innocence 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahhh....the old saying, "Love is blind". Well, I wouldn't confront him. That isn't going to answer your questions, or do anything for the relationship. What you can do is put him in a corner. OK, this is playing games, but it isn't because you do love him. Tell him that you would like to take the relationship to a more serious level, tell him you would like to see him more, tell him how you feel. Tell him that you would like to spend an evening at his home instead of yours. Pay attention to how he reacts, body language, ect. It is odd that you have dated this long and see so little of each other. Is the number he gave you for a cell phone? Do the two of you go out in public? I think your instincts are right about this guy, something isn't right. I will bet that his "friend" is a woman. He may not necessarily be married, but it seems he is in a serious relationship.
2006-11-26 11:43:01 · answer #2 · answered by kandekizzez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't been to his house and haven't been able to get a hold of him while he's at home than he is most likely taken.And that means you need to back off.Women need to stop being the other women( I'm not saying you are just in general)I've never been the other women and think once women know that a man is taken no matter what feeling are there you don't ever cross that line.But hey you could go to his house and find out for yourself and if hes single don't take no for answer.Good luck!
2006-11-26 11:35:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust your own instincts. You dont have proof, but there are signs that are telling you something is up. HAs he explained why you only see each other 1 day a week? Why hasnt he given you a home phone and not just his cell? Ask to meet his 'roommate'. If he acts hinky about that, stutters or stammers, then its most likely he is married.Trust yourself.
2006-11-26 11:37:17 · answer #4 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't even waste your time, to meet him tonight. You need to put your energy somewhere else. He is playing a game on you. the signs are all their. If you do see him, ask how come you can't call him at home? why is it always voice mail? Tell him to give you his mothers phone number? this would be interesting to call her, to tell her that you are her son"s girlfriend, and you are just calling to get acquainted. (smile) I think he is a player, and you are getting caught up in his game. Forget him, move on, it may be hard, but in time you will forget his name!
2006-11-26 11:39:16 · answer #5 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You already know the answer. Follow your gut instincts. They won't let you down. Confront him and if the answer he gives you still doesn't feel right, get out now! For your own sake, as well as that of his family.
2006-11-26 11:57:21 · answer #6 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've been seeing him for three months and he hasn't opended up to you by now, move on to someone better.
(By opening up, I mean, him inviting you over to his place, meet his friends, his hometown etc.)
Secondly, if you have to ask, here, then you know yourself somethings not right. Trust your gut instinct.
Good luck!
2006-11-26 12:38:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't force it sweetie. Your love needs to be recipicated. Find someone that will return your kind deeeds. Dump this guy.
2006-11-26 11:34:28 · answer #8 · answered by A man ready to commit. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him
2006-11-26 11:31:44 · answer #9 · answered by trish 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋