Ciggarette Smoke?

Question

Ok, so heres my problem, I live in a house with my dad and sister, and currently my boyfriend. Well, my dad has smoked for over 30 years, and the house is always smelling like smoke. My boyfriend starts telling me how he can't believe that my dad smokes in the house and doesnt "care" about me and my sisters health. He said we are prolly going to die when we're 35. I tell him I've tried to tell my dad about his smoking but its his house. You can't tell someone whos been smoking for over 30 years to quit their habits 123. I dont know what to do my boyfriend is always making comments now, and I'm really tired of everything. he thinks I don't care I DO. What am I suppose to do?

Answer 1

Move out. If you are old enough to have your boyfriend living with you then you are old enough to be out on your own.

Answer 2

Your boyfriend would have known about your dad's smoking - before he moved in and your dad was very kind to provide him with a home. So your boyfriend has no right to make this an issue. Yeah - he's right - secondary smoke from any smoker - is not good for your health - but he still has no right to moan about it all the time. Something tells me that he is having problems with his own parents - like - why isn't he living with them??? Could it be that he is very judgemental and demanding and whingeing all the time - just like he has started to be at your place????? It's sad for you all about your dad smoking - it has probably already ruined his health and yes - it could be affecting your health as well. You are in a difficult situation - you love your dad and you want to be with your boyfriend. Why don't you and your boyfriend move out together - sensibly and with no drama about the smoking issue (after all - it is your father's house!!!) and make your new home a no-smoking haven?? If your dad has been smoking for 30 years - you have your work cut out for you in trying to help him quit. Hope you find a solution soon!

Answer 3

Well, I dont really blame him. I have smoked for 10 years, couldnt hold a candle to your dads 30 but nonetheless, am an addicted smoker. I have found that my children were getting sick alot with bronchitis, emphysema and even phnumonia one time. I kept wondering if it were the mold or just "that time of year" but no, a thought crossed my mind. Even if I am not smoking in the same room, is it still making them sick????? Am I killing my children???? So, I stopped smoking in the house and the car. A pain in my **** but I thought it will be worth it for them. It has been a year now and my children havent gotten sick ( except the stomach virus that went around at school) They arent out of breath, wheezing or coughing at night. The nebulizers are put away along with the humidifiers. I felt like a crummy parent. My kids might as well have been suckin on a cigarette the whole time. U should talk to your father because studies do show that kids whose parents smoke around them can actually die from second hand smoke. they can be suffocated eventually from the build up of mucous in their chest causing it very hard for them to breathe.

Answer 4

First of all your boyfriend is being very rude. It's not his place to tell you where your dad can smoke because it's not his house and it's not his place to tell you when you're going to die, that just plain out cruel. Second of all it's your dad's house and if he's been smoking there for 30 years then let him, he's the one paying the bills in the house so you can't tell him what to do. Third of all you are in danger also. If you've been breathing that cigarette smoke for 30 years the you've been smoking your self also, it's called second hand smoking. This kind of smoking can kill you quicker than just plain out smoking regular.

Answer 5

First of all you shouldn't be living with your boyfriend. Let him move out and get his own place. And if you don't like the smoke in the air, I wouldn't either then you also need to move out. Dad is not going to quit. But when you do move out tell your dad isn't because you can't continue to breathe the smoke, maybe this will make him think about what he is doing.

Answer 6

The hazards from second-hand smoke are real and your health is in great danger. Thank your lucky stars that your boyfriend cares enough to remind you of this and put up with the criticism that is now raining down on him. There's nothing you can do about your dad's smoking habit. You need to find a place of your own away from the smoke.

Answer 7

First of all, your boyfriend doesn't belong in your house anyway. Secondly, he shouldn't be complaining about your dad's smoking! IT IS YOUR DAD'S HOUSE!! You're right, he isn't going to quit after 30 years and not for your boyfriend.
Is your boyfriend working? Does he pay rent for living there? Maybe if you're old enough to have a boyfriend living with you, you and him should find your own place to live if you don't like the living situation. That's all I can tell you.

Answer 8

If you and your boyfriend have jobs, pool your money and move out of your father's house. Cigarette smoke is lethal. You will probably not die at 35, but you could wind up with cancer or emphasema, other serious respiratory illnesses, etc. You should try to move out of your father's home anyway, but it would be wise for your health's sake, both physical and mental, to move out. You are correct, long term smokers who quit cold turkey are rare, it can be done, but its rare. Chances are, this is a habit that your father will not give up until his health is at great risk and believe it or not, maybe not even then. Moving out will save your health, stop your boyfriend from complaining, and give you your freedom from the health risk and the family stress. Good luck.

Answer 9

Tell him you can't believe he doesn't care enough about you to get you out of there. What a jack! He sounds like a control freak already. Bitching at you over something someone else is doing. Let him tell your Dad how to live in his own house, I am sure Dad will show him what he needs to see. He sounds kinda mousy, get a new boyfriend that does not have to live off of your Dad and b itch about it too.

Answer 10

could give your boyfriend the facts about smoking and the affects. when you leave home your body will cure itself from any damage the second smoke may have caused. exception is cancer. as far as your dad as a father myself who smokes and has 3 young ones yes its hard to quit and I havent yet. but you could ask him not to smoke in certain rooms. and see if you can get him to little by little start smoking outside in stead. have him read the facts like that commercial on tv thetruth.com I think it is.
Good Luck and if your boyfriend cant be supportive of your family and your decissions now. Just think how hes going to be after marrage. Becareful with this one sounds like hes not worth your trouble.

Answer 11

You can request your Dad not to smoke in the living room. He may find an option to enjoy his habit out side the house if other persons are getting irritated.