Im really confused. there is this guy i like and we have been going out. my dad is acting like a real dumbo he tells everyone his kids are good but thats never true cause no one is perfect. he believes that a boyfriend is a shame and eventually you will get pregnant but that is not the case at all he wants me to probably start dating when im 25 which is very very far away he thinks i will get pregnant thats his biggest fear and then he goes around spying on me and my brother and if he ever sees me with this guy he will freak i wanted to break up with this guy only for now until he calms down and stops acting up. what should i do?
2006-11-26 03:26:48 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tell your bf that right now is not a good time for you guys to be dating cause your dad is really getting suspicious, but later in the year when things calm down, you would deffinitely want to get back with him. and tell him that its not that you don't like him, its that you don't want to get in trouble then never get to see him.
2006-11-26 03:30:46 · answer #1 · answered by m_rae0232 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe Im getting old lol, or am old beyond my years, but I can really understand where your dad is coming from. If I had a child I would probably feel the same way - it is a legitimate fear for any parent. You have to understand where hes coming from, you're his little girl and he knows what your boyfriend is thinking about as he was once a young guy too, and that probably scares him. He also has the wisdom to realize that you and him probably wont last forever, and that eventually it will end in you being hurt, and he wants to protect you from that. Also, its fear of you doing something rash and somehow ruining your life, or doing things you'll regret because you're convinced you love him or something, he wants you to be happy and have the best life, and not to ever waste it on a guy. I hope these allow some insights - he really is just trying to stop you from making mistakes that you really might regret, and try to at least see his fears and address them rationally with him.
2006-11-26 11:34:29 · answer #2 · answered by radiancia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey darlin, all fathers are like that. Didn't you know that? They are just protecting their little girls. And they can't believe their little girls have growed up already. Try to understand your dad's side for one second. You a girl, and he knows how the world is now a days and how fast the girls are getting pregnant. That is one worry. And he loves you so, so much that he doesn't want you to give up your future because of an oops. I know your probably careful and all. But think about that it only takes just one time to get pg. Now, about you guy, have the both of you really tried to even talk to your dad? If not, don't you think that you both should. It might clear up a few things with him. Have your guy dress nice every time he goes to your house. He can change later. But at least he is making an appearance that your dad might like. See my picture. Dad's are funny that way. But the question you need to ask yourself is, Do I really love this guy enough to go through this until dad accepts him or em I going to have to tell dad off and say this is my life not yours and who is in love with him? Me or you? But hopefully it doesn't come to that point. But just talk to your dad and see if that helps any. At first it may not. But be persistant. Good luck!
2006-11-26 11:54:06 · answer #3 · answered by Deb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... Your dad is just being your dad. He just wants the best for you and doesn't want you to mess up something that can be good in his eyes. I don't know how easy talking to your dad is but you should first talk to your dad yourself and tell him how much you like this guy and how great of a guy he is.. And to prove that to him, tell him that you want to have him over for supper or for him to meet so they can talk. If, your boyfriend now like's you and is willing to do that for you then he is a great guy. Cause,a guy's fear is always meeting the parents. But, your dad might just have to see with his own eyes how nice this guy is and he is taking it way out of hand. You, should talk to your boyfriend about the breaking up part and see how he feels about it. Cause, it is effecting him too.
Best of luck to you!!!
2006-11-26 11:31:55 · answer #4 · answered by Cherries 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's up to you to prove to your dad that you are responsible and trustworthy.It's tougher with daughters than sons.Try making agreements with your dad as to what time you will be home from a date and make sure that you keep your word.Also explain to him that you understand the implications of unsafe behavior (sex,drinking,drugs) and that you would never do something to cause disgrace in his eyes.If all that fails then you might have to get your current bf to let your parents go on a date with you two IT"S DRASTIC BUT IF YOU REALLY CARE FOR THIS GUY AND HER REALLY CARES ABOUT YOU THAN THERE SHOULD BE NOTHING YOU TWO WOULD NOT DO TO HAVE YOUR PARENTS ACCEPT YOU TWO AS A RESPONSIBLE COUPLE.
2006-11-26 11:39:26 · answer #5 · answered by hjbergel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your parents. Its hard but they just don't want you to make a big mistake in your life. Trust me they mean well. Just be smart with guys you are involved in. Think about the consequences for your actions when you are in the situation. Always think about the future.
2006-11-26 11:32:36 · answer #6 · answered by vato 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go out with the guy to a movie...or arcade to have some time together..invite your family to the arcade & show him that you ar eresponsible enough to hang out with this guy. If he sees the trust-i think he will eventuLLY have trust in you with this guy. ont break up with them if its not a major thing between you and your dad. if the guy is worth the waiting he should wait. have fun!
GL!
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2006-11-26 11:32:24 · answer #7 · answered by KatastropheGirl™ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know nothing about dating. But why don't you just talk to your father. Maybe he'll understand that you are just dating, not being too serious.
2006-11-26 11:32:02 · answer #8 · answered by vincent i 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋