I started dating this guy who seemed really sweet, after a few weeks he told me he considerd me his girlfriend, invited me to dinner with his family etc.I went away for the weekend and ever since then hes acting shady,he used to call everyday and now i havnt heard from him since wed- i left him a few messages and he never called back, im not going to call him again at this point because im so mad & my pride is hurt.I feel stupid because i really thought he was different & cared about me.Why would a guy do this?
2006-11-26 03:22:11 · 25 answers · asked by nyc88m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You only dated a few weeks, and like you said he "seemed" sweet. Most of them do in the beginning. Guys are going to be sweet and lay on all of the B.S they can to get you in bed. That is the goal of most guys when they meet a girl. If they have to tell you that they love you to get in your pants, they will. With a guy like this, you lose either way, if you sleep with him he dumps you, and if you don't sleep with him, he dumps you too. I wouldn't call him anymore either, he will just think you are chasing him. Obviously he isn't the guy you thought he was and it is better to know now than later on down the road when you get really attached.
2006-11-26 03:29:57 · answer #1 · answered by kandekizzez 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Obviously the key to your problem lies in your "going away" for the weekend. Where did you go? How did he act before you left? Do you think he is jealous, or thinks that you were cheating on him or betraying him somehow? More details would be helpful.
Just given the information you provide, I think it's clear that he's upset with you. You SHOULDN'T keep calling him-- he'll either get over it at some point or he won't. Try to keep your mind off it and stay busy. Wondering why another person did something is usually not worth the effort. People are just weird, ya know?
2006-11-26 11:26:01 · answer #2 · answered by Scarlett_156 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope I am wrong, but it sounds like he & his parents "just aren't into you". That's not a way one would think a man would respond after telling you, he wants you for his girlfriend. Hopefully there is a really good reason why he hasn't called. I would let him call you back. Let him stand up & be the man. He owes you an explanation, and when he does talk to you, make sure everything he says is backed up, and there is no lies anywhere.
If he is to be the one, he will be truthful to you, and everyone else around you & him.
If he is not, then your boots are made for walking!!!!
2006-11-26 11:37:36 · answer #3 · answered by Ericka E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's either a complete jerk or he's feeling guilty. Either way, you've made the right decision. Next time ask for your mother's opinion of him before you get too emotionally involved. Well...that is, if your mother is a decent judge of character. Since picking the wrong guy tends to run in a family, maybe you should find some other woman who has had a long, successful marriage with a great man, and ask for her opinion of your potential beau. -yk
2006-11-26 11:28:09 · answer #4 · answered by Yaakov 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think something happened during the day that may have offended him or hurt his feelings. If not then maybe hes had a lot of plans the past few days & hasnt looked at his messages! dont fret if you dont hear from him in about the next 2 days just move on! you're right to not call him anymore think if its that hard for him to return a call then hes not worth calling.
GL!
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2006-11-26 11:26:24 · answer #5 · answered by KatastropheGirl™ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe because you went away for the weekend. Were you intimate, and was it the first time for you two to be intimate with each other? Sex can make guys react in strange ways; they can become withdrawn, introspective, pensive. Because sex is very important. If this is the case, it could be just temporary and soon he will become how he used to be. All relationships can basically be summed up as 'boys are dumb, and girls are crazy'.
2006-11-26 11:30:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's amazing is his name Shawn Thompson, I have had the instence recently and it really drove me nuts because I wanted closure. But, the more and more I sat thinking about i found myself not doing others things like getting on with my life, I felt pissed off because he made loose like three hours a day of my life pissed off at him. So, move on and when he does call don't answer see if he leaves a message and if he doesn't, let him go it sucks but sometimes we have to let things go for them to come back. Good Luck!
2006-11-26 11:27:11 · answer #7 · answered by A.K.A NK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first question that comes to mind is: What did you do during that weekend that would have put him off? Did you have an argument or disagreement about anything that could have turned him off to you(sexual or otherwise)? How did he act up until he dropped you off after the weekend and when did his behavior change...these are questions you should be asking yourself and when you figure out what did it, you'll have your answer. Whether or not you choose to fix it is entirely up to you...
2006-11-26 11:26:04 · answer #8 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May be there are some other reasons and compulsions that he did not call. Its better to have final word with him before deciding any thing. I dont say call him just like that but for a final word. May be this will solve the problem other wise you have already decided to quiet.
2006-11-26 11:27:00 · answer #9 · answered by Paassion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He either found someone else or his familly didnt like you. If you've called and left messages that are'nt returned then let it go.
Who did you away with on the weekend? You ex or your familly.
Plus you should never meet someone's familly after three weeks. You dont know them well enough.
2006-11-26 11:30:33 · answer #10 · answered by A man ready to commit. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋