It's a taboo for parents to come out and say that if they had it to do again, they wouldn't. One of my friends who recently became a mother went so far as to say "Now that I have a child, I've become invisible -- where did *I* go?" This is hardly an advertisement for parenthood. Everyone says "it's a lot of work!", but I can't tell if they mean that it's too much work. What is the truth???
2006-11-26 03:20:27 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
The person that said "your life is over when you have kids" is out of her mind. It is only over if you think it is...people that say that usually don't have anything else going for them so it's an easy response when asked the question.
Yes, it changes your life. Your free time will be severely diminished but it won't disappear completely. You can be a parent and continue to develop yourself, reach for your OWN goals, but it will require more and more disipline as time goes on.
I am the father of a 2 year old with anoth'r on the way and still find the time to pursue my other interests. It has become much more difficult, no doubt, but there is time. You simply have to eliminate all of the "waste time" that nearly all of us take part in. When I was single I never had to think about doing something more productive then vegging on the couch in front of the tv..but now that I'm a parent, and the choice is "veg" or "write another piece of that novel" then my decision is much clearer.
Never let anyone tell you your life is over because you become a parent, and that all of your waking hours will be devoted to your children. That's archaic thinking and deserves no place in todays society. What? After your children grow up then what? Pick up your life after 20 years on the bench? That's a great recipe for being old, lonely, and with no direction, waiting for your kids to visit you so that you can feel useful again.
2006-11-26 03:33:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth is it is a ton of work...and for awhile you do become invisible...babies need TONS of attention and work. The first 6 months are a complete blur. After that you get into a routine and things slow down a little bit. As they get older you get more time back to yourself and your spouse.
There were days that I thought, what have I gotten into...but there's NO WAY I would change being a mom. I love my son so much. Everyday is a blessing, even if it's a blessing in disguise.
2006-11-26 03:23:43 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am currently pregnant with my 4th baby. I would do it all over again and again. They are wonderful. I still dont know what MY name is... I think it is mom all the time. But on the other hand nothing compares to when you child first learns how to say mom and you know they mean you. It is a wonderful experience, if you can put you aside. I think the "a lot of work" is just a typical complaint. I think the only way it is a lot of work is if you make it that way. My kids are NOT a lot of work. They are a lot of fun and A LOT of learning experiences. Children are worth it all!
2006-11-26 03:26:45 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs. Always Right 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok im 23 with an 8 month previous toddler and that i appreciate being a mom, and ur 40 have self belief me that aint previous, of route u can nonetheless be a mom, alot of celebraties are having little ones at a later age, i imagine this is going to likely be a tremendous idea for u and ur hubby to plot havin little ones coz before each and every thing im particular ur alot mature than me, which skill u have alot extra experience and ought to have extra information about stuff and secondly as u and ur hubby were in paintings for a lengthy time period signifies that u must be financially shelter it rather is between the failings u want at the same time as havin a toddler, coz children must be very intense priced. i imagine u do wana hav little ones in the different case u wouldnt have requested the question. my suggestion must be...move for IT, im particular u'll make a good mom. X
2016-11-26 22:55:45 · answer #4 · answered by binette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO. I dont regret it one bit. I have two and they turned out the be wonderful human beings. She had the child now she better get into the right mind set to raise that child or she will have problems. Sometimes it's not all about us and life is sacrifices. If her child is healthy and happy she should count her blessings. Of course children ARE NOT for everyone but you really need to decide that before you have them.
It boils down to this.....Love.
2006-11-26 03:25:03 · answer #5 · answered by Jill P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parenthood isnt for the selfish. When you have children your life is over, and 'you' do disapear. Youre entire focus becomes that next generation.
Is it hard, yeah, do you wish you could quit some times, hell yeah. But its also the most amazinly rewarding thing there is.
If you dont want kids dont have them. Theres nothing wrong with not having children.
2006-11-26 03:23:26 · answer #6 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think many people secretly regret yet are scared to admit it because if they do people will think they are bad parents or simply bad people...
I see a lot of complaining here.. and see alot of parents whose actions would indicate they would rather not have kids...
I see a lot who work constantly and dump kids in day cares... I suspect there are many who havent even thought about it... but their actions give them away...
do I regret it myself?? I Had my tubes tied after one kid... think sometimes we need to realize the world today isnt what it used to be.. everybody regrets something every now and then....
2006-11-26 04:23:04 · answer #7 · answered by CF_ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have 4 children and I love them too death.. I could never say that I regret having them.
I have too admit it is hard dealing with my children but this is part of life. I brought them too the world and my job as a parent is too raise them and love them unconditionally..
2006-11-26 03:28:06 · answer #8 · answered by Vicky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋