Help pls! This is a continuation of a previous qn. but I'm out of my mind about this guy I've known in a club for four months. We're both single and in 30s-40s age group & out of. We flirted, he pursued me with calls and then asked me out 1 mth ago. We both had busy schedules but eventually met lst wk. Hit it off very well..laughed & big attraction. We kissed passionately and he wanted to go to a hotel as both of us share small apts. with other friends. I refused explaining I need more time. He joked..'what do you want a wedding?'. He drove me home and said 'we'll be in contact by phone'. He never called. I left a msg..he didn't reply. I was hurt. Ran into him a week later at a club and he asked me to dance..v friendly but didn't mention the no calling. He then left without saying goodbye. I don't understand it. If it was just for sex then why not go for a stranger and not a girl you have a lot of fun with? Why can't he wait a bit. Do I have a chance. Goin' crazy!
2006-11-26 03:19:49 · 10 answers · asked by sonia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
suppose you gave in ,then no phone call
2006-11-26 03:23:28 · answer #1 · answered by . 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Corazon, I saw this episode on "Oprah" where other women were experiencing the same thing as you. The truth is... HE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU. For all you know, he might be doing the exact thing to other women as well.
And remember that you don't ever have to agree to sex. You did the right thing by saying no, and if he can't give you the time you need to get to know each other better before going to 2nd base, it's his loss!! No regrets!!
2006-11-26 11:28:06 · answer #2 · answered by xander 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it was only for sex, (he prolly even has a wife.. what gurantees u that he doesnt? just because he took it off and didnt mention her, or heck even lyed about her existance doesnt mean its true!)
why did he choose u and bothered to know u and chitchat and have fun and do all that introduction before he asks u to bed? its because what guys do. guys see it as normal and what theyr supposed to do..and they dont think it means much.. but for u, u look at it differently..he see's it just as a necessary protocole.. i think his an a r s e hole if i may say.
why cant he wait a bit? because he doesnt take this seriously and its for him just a fling .. he doesnt want a relationship with u and he doesnt even wanna date and all..
u should avoid this guy, if its necessary ( like if u met face to face and eyes caught others eyes or he came up to u ) just talk friendly like a guyu met once and dont like, even if u like him.. and pretend like it didnt happen and that u forgot..even if u didnt.. and have fun and move on with ur life.. and if u meet in a club flirt with another guy and he'll see u and he'll leave u alone.. with regret for being such an ********
2006-11-26 11:28:25 · answer #3 · answered by Kolera 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say, you have a chance with the guy, the chance I mean is to have sex with him. I do not think this guy wants anything more than just a casual sex. Also, yes, he can just find a random girl to have that, but I don't think it matters to him. Casual sex can be done with both strangers and friends I guess. It's just that I don't think he is looking to be your friend neither.
2006-11-26 11:23:47 · answer #4 · answered by Mumbling Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok ill tell you how i see it....you flirted with him, then you shut him out...thats like giving somone a KFC buckect when they hungey but saying you cant eat none...its a tease..so that why hes proberlly switch...hes probelly think 'F*** her, shes a tease' im not saying you should give it up too him or anyone...what im saying is dont tease a guy cos its frustrating..be more lady like...guys like that..its wife material..
2006-11-26 11:25:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he used ya! im so sorry but the good thing is if he doesnt mention it you dont have to either..the next time he asks you out just say "i have plans" or something. Hes not worth the tears or anger. i think its time ot move on
well GL!
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2006-11-26 11:23:20 · answer #6 · answered by KatastropheGirl™ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just forget about him he seems like the player type who just wants sex and you seem better than that if he isnt willing to wait for you just move on
2006-11-26 11:26:20 · answer #7 · answered by in luv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg! there is only one thing that this guy wants and if you dont want to give it to him then dont!!! dont worry about this guy! he is not worth it! just be tyourself and find a guy that likes you for you and well not anything else.
2006-11-26 11:30:28 · answer #8 · answered by Meonater 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you do, but just stay away from him. he sound like a sex craving as$ hole. you deserve better. and if you really want him back that bad, ignore him.
2006-11-26 11:24:26 · answer #9 · answered by m_rae0232 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no
you should become a nun instead
2006-11-26 11:21:17 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋