Okay, my boyfriend and I have been dating quite happily for a while. We've lived together for the last 6 months and we get along great. We both discuss the future in terms of moving together/being together, but he has never used the word marriage. He's very shy w/ his emotions, but I'm not sure I want to bring it up to him and set myself up for rejection or the whole, "I hadn't really thought of it," and have him turn off from the subject. It's driving me crazy not knowing what his intentions are, since I know where mine are (I've never met a better guy in my life!) We're both in our mid 20s, but he's more settled than a lot of 20-something guys. Should I bring it up or wait around or ... ? Seeking advice.
2006-11-26 03:19:45 · 8 answers · asked by Lovinglife 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ask him a general question...you know like what are your thoughts on Marriage....how do you feel about committment??
Would you like to be a father one day....let him know that your know trying to scare him......you just want to know these things aobut him.......if you have been together for this amount of time, you deserve to know....
You don' have to scare him off...however you should get to know one another more.....
Good Luck to you!!!
2006-11-26 03:25:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you're living with him and I presume acting as a wife to him, so why would he need to marry you. Unfortunately ladies like you that are willilng to do that make if difficult for anyone to get married anymore because a guy can easily find a girl who will shack up and give him freebies. Bring it up to him but don't be surprised when he backs off. The best thing to do is move out and stop sleeping with him. Maybe he will marry you then , but more likelly he will just find another woman willing to give freebies.
2006-11-26 03:24:23 · answer #2 · answered by reallyfedup 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Definately bring it up. Don't you want to know what he really wants out of this relationship?
A) He wants to move forward and make this a permanent thing
B) He doesn't ever want to get married (you decide how YOU want to handle that)
C) He isn't happy and wants you out tomorrow
Why sit around and wait and see if he ever wants what you want. You deserve to be with someone that feels the same way as you do. And if he doesn't wy waste your time and youth with someone that doesn't?
2006-11-26 03:26:21 · answer #3 · answered by I_Love_Life! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good way to see is ask what his views are on children and by what age does he want to have his first kid. Marriage is a tricky thing to talk about with men. Ask him what he thinks ur kids would look like with him or how he would see u as a mom and see where it goes from there.
2006-11-26 03:23:39 · answer #4 · answered by andyramvzb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bring it up. If he's not ready for it, you'll find out right away and you'll have your answer! It'll also give him fair warning that you're looking for a legal way to bind him to you...that's a sure-fire way to bring everything to a head!
2006-11-26 03:22:47 · answer #5 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he might be considering it and you dont know it. maybe hes just comfortable where you are. 6 months isnt very long.. ive been with my husband for over 2 years, and im still finding out new things!! subtly ask him how he feels on the topic
2006-11-26 03:23:51 · answer #6 · answered by *never give up* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it would hurt to bring it up! Just try it and see how he reacts! If he acts weird, don't go any deeper into the conversation. You might be surprised!
2006-11-26 03:23:23 · answer #7 · answered by dreamg34 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yup marry him.
2006-11-26 03:23:09 · answer #8 · answered by Paassion 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋