Wsup guys.. my toddler is just over 3 years old and I have been going over "Saying no to strangers" drills.. and he's catching on. He will randomly ask me questions which a stranger would ask and I say no, and then he says no and I will ask him. Question is, is 3 too early to start telling him to say no to strangers? Of course at 3 he probably isn't sure exactly what a stranger is. Let me know if I am doing it right? Or should I wait?
2006-11-26 03:03:56 · 16 answers · asked by aj lewis 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
It is about time you can start explaining to him.
2006-11-28 03:36:53 · answer #1 · answered by moin_anjum 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't learn him say only "NO" to strangers.Imagine this:
-Are your parents home?
-NO!
-Is that your mother over there?
-NO(even if it is or it's not,it's dangerous for your child that somebody knows there isn't a mother around)!
If the child learns to stay away from stranger at the age of 3,imagine what will happen at the age of 5 when he go to school.There would be plenty of strangers and what?He will stay away from them and not make friends.Even if you have explained that they are good people,for him they would still be strangers.And what does he know about strangers?No,No and No to strangers!
About the strangers on the street,not all of them are bad people.You will easily recognise them by the way they talk to your child and if then they turn to you.
2006-11-26 12:03:24 · answer #2 · answered by Livia 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The younger the better. Good job!! Teaching a child to say no to strangers is one of the best things you can ever do. One thing to also remember, he has the right to say, "Don't touch me" too. Make sure he knows the difference between good touch and bad touch too because in today's world sometimes it's not the strangers that you have to worry about.
2006-11-26 11:14:38 · answer #3 · answered by FlyChicc420 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's always a good idea to tell them to not go with someone they don't know, but like my children's pediatrician said, really, there is no point in talking about strangers because you'll only scare them. Truthfully, a person who wants to abduct your child, could scam a 12 year old into following them, ie a dog, or a video game. So a 3 year old wouldn't even be an obstacle, really.
What my ped did recommend is that if he/she gets lost in a store, tell them to go to a woman, preferably with kids, and she'll help find the mom. So that's what I have told my son.
All in all, just try to keep tabs on your child at all times, obviously, and try to help him understand that if he doesn't know the person, then to not speak with them unless you are present.
2006-11-26 16:21:15 · answer #4 · answered by the_proms 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its never to early to protect your child, don't wait, just talk to him in words he can understand. I was a very friendly 4 year old, I thought everybody was my friend. An older man grabbed me by the hand in the store and tried to walk out with me, thank God the store cashier knew who I was and turned the auto-lock on the doors on so he couldn't take me out of the store. We lived in a small town where everybody knew everybody (except the old guy), so no body ever talked to me about strangers until after this happenned. It turned out the guy was wanted for raping and killing 3 girls under the age of 5. Keep doing what your doing, don't wait, your child's life could depend on the decisions he makes based on what you've taught him. There's a book called Stranger Danger that explains how to talk to your child in words he'll understand and there's little drawings and stories to help your child understand without freaking them out when they meet someone new, I ingrained it into my kids!
When my daughter was in 4th grade, a student in her class, Dorian Thomas was abducted, its been 8 years and there hasn't been 1 sign of him (or his remains)
love your baby, and keep him safe
2006-11-26 11:32:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's NEVER to early to teach your child about strangers. Make sure you explain as best you can what a stranger is.
2006-11-26 11:06:18 · answer #6 · answered by hazelblue 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's much better to start now then waiting until he's 8. Just be careful that he doesn't get the impression that everyone he doesn't know is a stranger and refuse to talk to preschool teachers or doctors.
2006-11-26 13:43:30 · answer #7 · answered by kelly v 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he needs to understand what a stranger is, and understand that no one is allowed to take him someplace without mom knowing.
its better to teach him his full name and address at this age. But its excellent to be starting the no to strangers drill. Just make sure he knows who a stranger would be.
2006-11-26 11:14:13 · answer #8 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's never to early to make your child aware of "stranger danger". The more information they have the better off they will be!
2006-11-26 20:50:33 · answer #9 · answered by party_pam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it okay. Its never to ealry to start teaching your kids not to talk to strangers. Its a wonderful thing actually......it'll affect them later in life. If you start teaching them things at an ealry age...imgaine how smart and responsible they'll be when teenagers! And as we all know....being a teenager is hard but keep on doing yo thang lol (my neice taught that to me)
2006-11-26 11:34:05 · answer #10 · answered by Just a mom :D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are doing a great job. It's never too early to start teaching your child safety. You sound like a great parent.
2006-11-26 11:50:41 · answer #11 · answered by Violet 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋