im 21 and my girlfriend is 19, we have been together for 3 years and we are really happy, we are engaged and are already planning buying a house and having children, i just want to know if im too young to think that its right to do all this, i love her and we both have good jobs and we aint dreamers so id just like to hear what older peoples opinions are of this.
2006-11-26 02:48:19 · 32 answers · asked by xxx_weeshexy_xxx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Listen to your heart man ....life is all about taking a decision , its only time that tells later if your decision was correct one or not .....
Listen to your heart ..ask yourself .... and do it if you feel its right. Also there is never a right time to get married and have kids.
2006-11-26 02:54:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, that Im not an older person but Im just like you... I just turned 20 and my fiance is 22. We just got married and bought a house. We also have a son that is due in 19 day's. Your not to young at all for this. We both have great jobs and were not dreamers only. It's not about dreaming or being to young. It's about the love you have for eachother. And, if the love is there, then being together forever is the best thing to do, no matter what age, or job, or money you have!!!! Congrates on being engaged....
Best of luck to you!!!
2006-11-26 02:53:51 · answer #2 · answered by Cherries 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not too young to do any of that buying a house if you can afford to is a good investment for your future and if you are in love and want to marry good luck to you both.
Just make sure you enjoy yourself have a few holidays etc before having children you are both still young and may regret doing things together when you were young because you had children at a young age. I'm not saying children are a burden or that being a young parent is a bad thing.
My brother and his wife were the same age exactly as you and your GF and did exactly what you are planning they have been happily married for 25 years now and have 2 children but they both say they wished they had waited to start having children and they had enjoyed themselves first
2006-11-26 03:32:09 · answer #3 · answered by Peachy Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you and your girlfriend want to get married then that's great. Just make sure that you sit down and have some really important talks before hand. A big one needs to be about money, what are each of your expectations? If you do have kids how long will she be off work? How will you manage with less income? Do you share the same religious beliefs? Will the children be raised religious? What are your expectations of the future? Will a promotion move you across the country? Who's job will you move for? These aren't questions to be left until after. Sit down and talk about everything. Then you will both be entering marriage with the same expectations and things should go much smoother.
Congratulations and good luck.
2006-11-26 02:54:47 · answer #4 · answered by libra1079 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question shouldn't be are you too young because even older people mess up when it comes to settling down. the question should be are you mature enough, are you ready and are you willing to make the neccessary sacrifices that come along with marriage? Well I'm not that much older than you, I'm 24 but I can give you some advice. Whatever you decide to do, do it with lots of thought. Make sure that you both love each other, that you both are willing to be with and live with each other the rest of our lives, that you are able to love each other unconditionally (accepting all good and bad habits) and that your future plans are in the best intrest of you two and possibly your future kids. Remember to be open and honest with each other and address all problems you have with each other and not with anyone else. Listen to each other and try do everything in your power to make sure that the other person is happy. Be sure to prioritize your lives because alot of relationships end because no one knows their place in the relationships or where they stand. Make sure that your home (wife, kids, bills etc) are taking care of before deciding to do other things such as party or travel etc.............Also, please don't make the mistake of trying to think that once you're married you can change things you don't like about each other. AIN'T NEVER GONNA HAPPEN. Last but not least......Stay in prayer and ask God for guidance and patience daily. Then all will be well......GOOD LUCK and GOD BLESS.
2006-11-26 03:10:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You arent too young if you do things in the right order as you seem to be. Just make sure you pay off the house before you have children. Kids put a lot of pressure on a relationship and your girlfriend will have to give up her job so financially it will be hard too. Good luck...I hope you both have a happy life.
2006-11-26 02:52:59 · answer #6 · answered by dragonrider707 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are both smart and sensible (which I think you are) then no, you aren't too young for this.
It's not as if you are both rushing into things, you have got good jobs, you are planning things out, you are taking things bit by bit and that is a good sign.
Maybe you just feel that everything is going to happen all at once so take things slow, buying a house is a big commitment, unless you have the cash to buy it outright you will have a mortgage for at least 15 years and obviously you know how long kid need looking after :)
As long as you both are happy and are planning things that suit both of you I honestly think you will be fine :)
2006-11-26 04:32:35 · answer #7 · answered by debs1701 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're fine. I've been married over 25 years to my bride. Guess what, I was 21, she was 19, we met in England. Deja vue, we had dated for 3 years. Give the children thing a few years, wait, you know to really get use to each other. Funny how after you slip on that ring, and get the paper (wedding lines) things get harder. I got some advice, never go to bed angry at each other. Always remember to say, "I'm sorry it's all my fault, hey, are you losing weight, and yes honey, I was listening." Kept my bacon at the fire so far. Best of luck.
2006-11-26 02:54:19 · answer #8 · answered by Clipper 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, but dont rush. The last thing you want or need is a 25 year mortgage and a couple of screaming kids and find in 5 years you dont want any of this. Im not trying to scare you or anything but just look at everything, literally everything. You are very young. If it works, fantastic. I wish you all the best.
2006-11-26 03:28:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are. But if you choose to stick with it, remember that both of you are very young. Both of you will change and grow a lot in the next few years. Likely in directions that the two of you cannot now foresee. You have to be open to and supportive of each other's growth. And you have to be appreciative of a partner that is supportive of your growth. If you don't follow this advice, you'll ultimately push each other away, and the two of you will grow apart. If you can be wise enough to allow each other room for growth, you have the chance for a long and happy future.
2006-11-26 02:56:41 · answer #10 · answered by tomingetz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No i don't think you're too young as you both seem to know what you want. At least when your kids are in their 20s, both of you will still be young also! It's better that way than putting it off until it's too late. Good luck for the future!
2006-11-26 03:50:16 · answer #11 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋