I know of a little girl whose mom is dead and the father adandoned her. She lives with cousins now but they really can't adopt her, eventhough they want to, because they have a very unstable home life. I was wanting to adopt the kid for them that way the little girl didn't have to go to a foster home or someplace worse. I know i'm in the military, but is this a possiblity for me to do and if so, how would i do it?
2006-11-26 02:43:23 · 8 answers · asked by John C 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Since the mother is dead and the father abandoned her, I think the only way you would be able to adopt the child is to go through the State and adopt her that way. You will probably have to take some classes and become ceritified to adopt her, but that shouldn't really be a problem. The state would have to get involved because of the father having abandoned her. They would either get him to terminate his rights or have them terminated. The only way I can think of to avoid all of that is to find the father and have him sign over his rights to you. I really hope everything works out for you and the girl. My wife and I cannot have children and we are hoping to find a child to adopt also. Good luck and know you are in my prayers!
2006-11-26 02:53:01 · answer #1 · answered by jjodom1010 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're in the military it probably wouldnt work, single parents can adopt, but not generally when you are still in the active duty part of your career.
You can however look into becoming a tempoary foster home for the child, and work on adopting her from there.
Call childrens or social services and ask them. You can also get a tempoary note of guardianship from the person who has full custody, to get you started. We've had to do that sort of thing before.
Call them and ask how best to go about it, and if you are able to while in the military.
2006-11-26 02:48:50 · answer #2 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start by talking to the relatives the little girl is living with. If she was placed with them by a social worker (or even if a social worker wasn't involved but is trying to place the child in a foster home now) they should be able to give you the name of the social worker in charge of the girl's case. Contacting that social worker would be a good place to start. If there isn't a social worker and the little girl's family has no objections you could try contacting the Division of Child and Family Services (or whatever it's called on your state) and ask for their direction on how to proceed. An attorney might be a good next step. The fact that you are military shouldn't be a problem as long as you can show that you are able to provide a stable, safe, loving environment for the child. Part of doing that will probably involve you showing the ability to properly care for the child if you are deployed overseas. Would you be able to bring the girl with you? If not, do you have a spouse who would be able to stay with her? Would you be able to opt out of deployment to be there to care for her? Do you have a relative who can help watch her? I hope this works out for all of you. Good luck!
2006-11-26 03:04:45 · answer #3 · answered by Steph 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
contact a lawyer... the bio-family has a better shot at the adoption than an outsider though. i don't know what you mean by "unstable home" if i knew more i could probably offer better advice...
BUT, in the end all adoptions start with a visit to an attorney. if the adoption is not contested by the bio-father the adoption process will be VERY inexpensive and will go through rather quickly.
BEST of wishes for the child & family!
2006-11-26 02:51:01 · answer #4 · answered by JayneDoe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I cant say yes and I cant say no. If you're in the millitary, it would be hard for the little girl and personally...I dont think it would work out if your single or something but there is always a chance you could.
2006-11-26 02:55:58 · answer #5 · answered by Just a mom :D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I know for certain that if you pass inspections or something, you can be single and still adopt BUT
you're definetely gonna have to quit the millitary...
2006-11-26 03:03:28 · answer #6 · answered by 2 days after my B day :) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to base legal. They will have someone who can help you look into all you options.
2006-11-27 15:55:11 · answer #7 · answered by usmcspouse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you might havta be married (?) but, you`d have to wait till you get out of the military - SRY
2006-11-26 02:46:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋