Well yesterday night I was at my friends house and he kept saying please give me a massage, i didnt want to cause it felt wierd. Then he started tickling me and pushing me and said i wont stop until you give me one. He kept on for about 5 minutes until i did, but i still didnt want to. He didnt try anything, just lay there while i massaged his back. Is this normal guy friend behaviour or did he cross a line?
2006-11-26 02:16:14 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am a 17 yr old girl, he is a 19 yr old guy, were classmates
2006-11-26 02:25:01 · update #1
he also has a girlfriend, but she lives in another country. He says she wont give him massages.
2006-11-26 02:28:42 · update #2
He also makes other innuendos, i think as a joke, like asks me what underwear im wearing, and aks me to show him, which i dont! But this is the first time he has pushed me into anything
2006-11-26 02:56:16 · update #3
No! was your gaydar twitching? oh man your freind has 'feelings' for you!
2006-11-26 02:17:51 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Grumpy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a guy and he is a guy then that is quite weird. I would never give my mates a massage! Unless I was a masseuse/sports therapist.
If you are a girl and he is a guy its pretty much the same as above or in both cases he may have feelings for you.
EDIT
Put it this way, my girl friend would be pissed if some girl gave me a massage.
Dont do it if you dont want to.
2006-11-26 02:23:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously felt uncomfortable about it so don't do it again for him. He wanted some physical comfort and it was probably quite innocent. However, you must be firm with him in future, you should only do things you feel comfortable and easy with. He was acting like a spoilt child and you gave in. Be more assertive in future and true to yourself and your own feelings about a situation.
2006-11-26 02:25:25 · answer #3 · answered by Peace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The old rule stands 'Do not do anything you are uncomfortable with! If he is a true friend, he will understand! Explain to him that it makes you feel uncomfortable but that you still want to be his friend. You can do no more than that. Good luck xx
2006-11-26 02:23:01 · answer #4 · answered by maria bartoninfrance 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fren...!
Asking for a massage is absolutely a sign of physical intimacy..
Your fren likes you very much !! 'gay' or adoration i dun know?
I dun think platonic friendly guys would do this to each other, its crossed the line surely.
2006-11-26 02:23:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a sure sign he regards you are a true mate. It's the nicest thing somebody can do for you. Nobody'll rub my back, so I gotta pay for it to be done down out local health and beauty place
xx
2006-11-26 02:40:43 · answer #6 · answered by MrsMac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt worry too much about it, esp as he never tried it on with you. Maybe he had a bad day/week and needed to relax
My guess is he has some feelings for you, and this was his "first step".
2006-11-26 02:26:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say there is an ulterior motive. Perhaps he wants to move the relationship onto a physical one more quickly. Personally I would say marriage before sex...
2006-11-26 02:20:54 · answer #8 · answered by Birdman 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say it was O.K. Perhaps he fancies you as well, but there is nothing wrong with what you did.
2006-11-26 02:20:03 · answer #9 · answered by Social Science Lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not that odd if your a girl..but if your a guy..then that is really weird
2006-11-26 02:18:47 · answer #10 · answered by halvey_37 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋